Wanted to mention:
B/c of the dude - my "former friend," - throwing me shade at the gym, I noticed I've moved my workout times to avoid the possibility of seeing him. I'm avoiding him b/c the gym is one of the few places I get to enjoy myself without the kids or my wife. It's time that's "mine," and I'll be damned if I'm going to have him around ruining it.
I don't want to patch things up. I don't care what his problem is. He did this last year - just went "dark" out of the blue (which was before he belonged to my gym). I spent a lot of time wondering what I "did wrong." I even had dreams about it, where he and his wife would tell me that it was all my fault (meaning, I thought it was my fault). Now I know better. There's a reason this dude doesn't have any old/good friends. He can't keep them. He either pushes them away once they're too close, or something else. He's "Flavor of the Day," - once someone else comes along that peaks his interest, you're old hat, and he repeats the cycle with them. I should have realized this when I noticed he's got a new car every 8 months, even though he can't afford it. Or why he's actively trying to cheat on his wife, in blatant boneheaded ways. Once "new" has lost its shine, it's "on to the next!"
Whatever. Not my problem. This time, I don't care. This time, I'm done. Loyalty in friendship is one of my top qualities I give, and I value the same in return. Flakes like this go into my mental and emotional trash bin.
But...not the point. Why now? I wonder if my subconscious is using him and his Flake Trait to get me to workout at different times to run into different women. Certainly possible.
B/c of the dude - my "former friend," - throwing me shade at the gym, I noticed I've moved my workout times to avoid the possibility of seeing him. I'm avoiding him b/c the gym is one of the few places I get to enjoy myself without the kids or my wife. It's time that's "mine," and I'll be damned if I'm going to have him around ruining it.
I don't want to patch things up. I don't care what his problem is. He did this last year - just went "dark" out of the blue (which was before he belonged to my gym). I spent a lot of time wondering what I "did wrong." I even had dreams about it, where he and his wife would tell me that it was all my fault (meaning, I thought it was my fault). Now I know better. There's a reason this dude doesn't have any old/good friends. He can't keep them. He either pushes them away once they're too close, or something else. He's "Flavor of the Day," - once someone else comes along that peaks his interest, you're old hat, and he repeats the cycle with them. I should have realized this when I noticed he's got a new car every 8 months, even though he can't afford it. Or why he's actively trying to cheat on his wife, in blatant boneheaded ways. Once "new" has lost its shine, it's "on to the next!"
Whatever. Not my problem. This time, I don't care. This time, I'm done. Loyalty in friendship is one of my top qualities I give, and I value the same in return. Flakes like this go into my mental and emotional trash bin.
But...not the point. Why now? I wonder if my subconscious is using him and his Flake Trait to get me to workout at different times to run into different women. Certainly possible.
