05-21-2017, 10:51 AM
(05-21-2017, 10:44 AM)swisston Wrote: I've had this disagreement with my other half more than once. Putting expectations on to other people's behaviour only leads to disappointment and arguments.
Her arguement is that we have a right to expect standards of behaviour from those in our lives.
I have the right to get angry when people do stupid things while driving. But getting angry at them only makes me unhappy... instead, I simply drive defensively and remain vigilant for the inevitable moron behind the wheel. I remain happy, and their stupidity does not cause me problems.
"Having the right to" make oneself miserable does not mean it is a good choice. It always makes me laugh when people argue for their limitations, as she is doing.
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