(05-18-2017, 08:30 AM)CatMan Wrote: Thank you very much!
I may very well still have work to do to remove the feelings of anxiety or even unworthiness I can get surrounding attractive women. It may be far too easy for me to default into that, and end up ruining what could be a chance for me to be with her. Fair enough!
I hear you on having the great peer group. Sadly, I've had to frequently redo my peer group, as when I've continued to advance myself in life, I've found many don't like that. That's resulted in people either backstabbing me in some way out of pettiness or jealousy, mistreating me, or just going dark on me. I assume many of them feel out shined at some point, on some level, and lash out because of it. I won't stop advancing myself, so I've had a small "real" close peer group, basically just family or so. Everyone else are friends, or some level of acquaintance. In time, probably once my business expansion is complete, that will enable me to find many others on the same level, so there will be enough commonality to ensure good connections. Not so much pettiness and jealousy and insecurity, they will better understand me and the struggles to get this far due to doing it themselves. Plus, I find people at this "level" (some of this sounds so arrogant, but I hope the intended context can be seen), to be more wholesome, happy, engaged and positive, so they're more of a joy to be around, and more "real" so a friendship can develop very quickly and solidly! Seems weird, knowing people since before I became successful, thinking they'd be the "real" ones who have known me all along so they could be trusted 100%, and not all the gold diggers I know trying to get on me, or the fair weather friends, or users. But I didn't realise, that the "real" ones were the ones that mostly started acting in ways I wouldn't have expected. I know now, that many people, won't really be happy for you if they perceive you to be doing "better" than them in some way. And if you continue doing so as I have, despite insane difficulty and near endless adversity that they know of you experiencing, it may further irritate them to watch you roll over it all like an invincible tank. I've had some of them say things to me, usually when drunk, to illustrate this kind of "loser mentality" was in them about me. Which hurt a bit as I'm here developing to benefit myself, not to show others up, especially friends that I cared about. So it upset me to hear them think so venomously of me, as if they're waiting for me to have some painful catastrophe. Just so they can feel better about their position in life.
At times, it can be a lonely road to the top, but I wouldn't exchange it for anything.
Sad to hear that kind of stuff regarding how other people act out of jealousy. What the hell, when you are with friends you are friends and you help each other out, discuss things to move forward, not engage in destructive conflict and backstabbing. What kind of friendship is that...
I haven't really experienced this, but I'm still pretty young (thus my sometimes maybe naive perspective on friendships, which I however try to withold) so I guess that haven't "kicked in" yet as people still are just floating around and have the "future ahead of them".
