05-07-2017, 07:01 PM
(05-07-2017, 06:34 PM)RTBoss Wrote: In real life (opposed to the fantasy of "Happily Ever After"), as relationships continue to develop, you realize there's a lot more to love than the initial feelings you get when you're excited about a new relationship. Those feelings are a natural part of the emotional bonding phase of a relationship. It fades. But real love isn't just a feeling - it's a bond, devotion - a real, caring connection to another person (or pet/animal, whatever). For me, I used to use "making love" as a way to gauge the health of my relationship. Since then, I've grown a lot. I realized that's not my wife's love language, and that I'm adaptable. It feels good to express my love sexually, but she's more like a typical guy. It's "Lets get this over with!" She likes sex and all, but knowing what she likes, it's "Get to it, give me my 3 orgasms, and let's watch some TV!" I used to take that personally. Now, I don't. Accepting that, I get to have more sex, b/c I don't end up getting all butt-hurt and make a huge fight about it, again and again.
Not completely related to the rest of your post, but this is a podcast about the love language you're mentioning here. It's about thirty minutes but it'll give you a good understanding and it could avoid some fights and misunderstandings in relationships.
http://www.personalityhacker.com/podcast...languages/
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