05-05-2017, 02:20 PM
(05-05-2017, 02:04 PM)Mr. Anderson Wrote:(05-05-2017, 01:32 PM)stratos Wrote: Hey! In my opinion here, she's actually testing you here to see if you view yourself as "boyfriend" material for her (i.e. are you lower status than she originally thought when she viewed you only as quick hookup material). If you want to be viewed only as a sex partner and not boyfriend or friend, then I would suggest declining with a "no thank you" or giving her an excuse when your plans with friends come up. If she's awesome enough to be her boyfriend than by all means hang out around her friends but expect little to no sex and a lot of teasing and frustration. (Again this is just my opinion and experience). As I mentioned before a lot of times when you decline to hang out with women socially who dangled a sex offer, they'll wait 10 days (and a lot of times, exactly 10 days for some weird reason) before coming over late at night just for sex.
Well, afterwards I have been thinking if this might be the test. As I said I am not good at recognize these things. The thing is I have nothing against hanging up with her but of course I would prefer having sex with her. Looks like having both things is not possible the way you said it.
I agree. I had the exact same experience as Anderson with the russian I went out witrh on V-Day. She texted me a few days later saying she had been thinking about me and stuff. Asked if I wanted to go for coffee.
Now, a bit of backstory: I had tried a day 2 with her and she said no. I ignored the logistics issues and chaosvrgn told me I needed to be more flexible. So I took his advice and ended up not getting a coffee date either.
So, my point is, in these situations, it seems like there's no right way to play it. If you don't take her bait, you're being "inflexible" if you be flexible, you're taking her bait. wtf.
