04-23-2017, 12:43 AM
(04-22-2017, 03:56 PM)RTBoss Wrote: Actually, I recently read something ... somewhere ... that showed women are capable of getting their sexual desires completely satisfied by reading material. Not sure how accurate that is, but it makes a lot of sense.
I postulated getting kinky to her. She laughed. Tieing her up freaks her out - probably something to do with the kidnapping. Spanking? No go. I've purchased toys, done all kinds of shit. The kinkiest I've got her to try was when I got out the Hitachi magic wand I bought and said I was going to give her orgasms, one after the other, until she couldn't handle it anymore. I think she stopped me at 3, lol. That was years ago.
Early on in our relationship, when we were having sex a lot, she acted as if she didn't want to - but it seemed playful. It was almost like a rape-fantasy. I couldn't tell then, and I couldn't tell to this day. I asked her about it, and she wouldn't talk about it.
Satisfied to the point where they don't want "bad" sex? - Yeah most likely.
But erotic literature is like porn, for women. It's only "that good". A good fuck is obviously gonna be better than "porn".
Just like women do give subtle signs for showing interest, with body language. They also give other "subtle signs", in this case, which I regard as her asking you to read these books. And if you approach a woman in the wrong way you get a rejection, even if you got some IoIs. Which may happen in a marriage as well. With that analogy, I would say that's what happened when you asked if it's something she wants to do. Even if she may have wanted to, and given implications of it (IoIs) when you initially "pull the trigger" she doesn't dare to say yes.
Now do take this with a grain of salt (like you should with anything), because I don't know how your marriage is. But your wife may not feel comfortable enough to live out her fantasies, your job is, to make her that comfortable with you.
If the woman is the ocean. You are the rock that's not to be moved by anything she throws at you, not matter how big ass waves she creates. She should be able to relax by simply being in your presence. Now this will almost definitely be harder for her since she did experience the abuse together with a lot of things as well.
When a woman knows she can't move that rock (man) she will start getting relaxed, because then she knows that this man also can't be influenced
