Tiger's Blood - DMSI 3.1A -Don Juan, Hugh Hefner, Tony Montana, Raykon

[Duke.Togo]

Why didn't you ask her in person?

Because I stopped working there. The last thing I did when I saw her was hug her firmly and kiss her on the cheek and said "lets chill sometime"

then I left.

At this point I had to ask her out in FB because I don't work there anymore.

I was pretty devastated yesterday at the idea of never seeing her again.

She responded to me asking her out by saying "Hey dude, i"m seeing someone else remember That sounds like a date"

The rest of the conversation is irrelevant because I won't ever see her again even though my heart desires to see her.

I'm going to be the asshole here and just tell you straight - you're blown when it comes to her. I can tell from your earlier posts that you were too emotionally invested, and from her reply and the way she used the term dude, she knew you were also.

Women pick up on shit like that. It may have actually turned out very differently if she knew you didn't like her. But, right now, for whatever reason, her boyfriend is a higher value proposition than you are.

Now this next bit could be relevant only to women from NYC, but, maybe not. From all of my experiences with women, I have come to realize that they use a weighted scale method, where they will weigh out the value of an experience against any so called repercussions. If the experience feels good enough, they'll bite on it.

It's like going shopping with a chick. They'll look around over and over again, and either they'll damn the consequences and buy something because they've been triggered to, or they'll be indecisive the whole time. The times they buy, they may have remorse later on and return the merchandise. Sometimes they'll go back and forth on it for a while.

The point is, women shop men like they do their hand bags. And generally speaking, the higher of value some thing is, the more a woman wants it. But if it's equal to what she already has, she'll window shop it, but she won't bite.

She window shopped you, and she didn't bite. You can't wear your heart on your sleeve, especially when a girl has someone else in her life.

Learn from this experience and move on. There's always another girl. There will always be the next girl. Don't ever forget that.