04-08-2017, 03:21 PM
ESTJ, from the few people I know who ARE ESTJ, are definitely natural alpha. One is a woman and two of them are men. They have booming, commander voices, very funny, and are very conscious of the social dynamic, ensuring those in their "pack" are taken care of. I have lived with all 3 at various times in my life, and the pattern is pretty evident. I'm at the anime convention with one of the ESTJ's. His natural alpha style is what made me feel insecure just an hour ago. He is a great leader and makes sure to check and see that all of us are taken care of.
Anyway, I recognize when I'm in a feeling of fear and/or lack. The truth is every personality type has something to offer in this world. I'm an ENFP. My specialty is being a ray of sunshine. So I just high fived random people and watched as their expressions changed. Since the time I posted my last post and now, I high fived over 100 people and most of them smiled. Only one older lady rejected me because she was an azn mom who was probably culturally disinclined to engage in physical contact with a man outside of her marriage.
My insecurity is completely gone now. I felt like shit for not being something that I'm not. How does that even make sense? It doesn't. But it's a very common theme among folks, and I'm reporting what I feel and what I'm going through.
Thanks duke for your reassuring statements. I do appreciate it! The actions that I took to get over the emotion is directly in alignment with what you said. And you're 100% right
Anyway, I recognize when I'm in a feeling of fear and/or lack. The truth is every personality type has something to offer in this world. I'm an ENFP. My specialty is being a ray of sunshine. So I just high fived random people and watched as their expressions changed. Since the time I posted my last post and now, I high fived over 100 people and most of them smiled. Only one older lady rejected me because she was an azn mom who was probably culturally disinclined to engage in physical contact with a man outside of her marriage.
My insecurity is completely gone now. I felt like shit for not being something that I'm not. How does that even make sense? It doesn't. But it's a very common theme among folks, and I'm reporting what I feel and what I'm going through.
Thanks duke for your reassuring statements. I do appreciate it! The actions that I took to get over the emotion is directly in alignment with what you said. And you're 100% right