(04-05-2017, 07:15 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: I sometimes wish I could take stands like you do RT, but ultimately I find it doesn't solve anything and just adds bad blood.
I don't speak to my mother except when I absolutely have to. I don't have to tell her about the shit she put me through, I prefer to just move on without her.
I don't think either way is better, but I have no idea.
Agreed - there's going to be more fallout from this. However, I'm going to go over the boundaries of our relationship with them one more time.
I see each of them about 3 times per week. It's a little much sometimes. My dad has been pretty good about watching the boundaries, until now. Mom I have a blowout with at least once every 3-4 months. This is 2 in one week.
Anyway, I don't need parents anymore. I'm grown, independent, and have no use for them. I love them, but their old role in my life is officially "retired." I don't even need/want the sizable inheritance they've planned for all of us. If there's a string attached, I will cut it. I don't do strings.
If you don't want to piss me off and risk an argument, or get thrown out of my house:
1.) Don't comment about my living space. It's my home, I don't care how you feel about it.
2.) Don't tell me how to raise my children.
3.) Don't stick your nose into my marriage.
4.) Don't give advice unless it's requested of you.
Pretty simple.
Boundaries will be reinforced when I see my mom Friday. For my part in escalating the argument, I'll apologize and tell her I love her, but boundaries. Oh yeah, and "Mom," - don't ever send Dad as your mediator again. Either one of 'em can't abide by the boundaries, we won't be seeing each other for training anymore. My wife can cover the loss of that income with one extra shift per month. We're good. But for her sake, I'll keep trying to keep the peace.
