03-30-2017, 01:34 AM
(03-29-2017, 06:30 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(03-29-2017, 05:41 PM)chaosvrgn Wrote:(03-29-2017, 04:35 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(03-29-2017, 04:25 PM)Benjamin Wrote: I've been in plenty of girls.. can't say the same for you with the attitude you project when anyone tries to help you that will keep you a virgin. It's times like this I understand why Shannon and others have stopped bothering trying to help you as it's a losing proposition and you just turn it back on them by causing some kind of drama.
All you want to do is argue and cause drama, you don't genuinely want to improve or have someone help you from their own experience.
I didn't see any help here. All I saw was a bunch of judgement being passed on people who've wanted to kill themselves. I've been there ok? I don't think it's right to say someone shouldn't have sex with someone who's wanted to kill themselves that's just Bs to me.
As for the amog bit, I said I've only attracted crazies and mystic pimp says it's limiting beliefs. Again, how us that helping? All I've attracted so far ARE crazies, it's a fact. So yeah, where's this help you speak of? "Stay a virgin cause you shouldn't f*ck crazies" is all I'm hearing here.
Sarge, you'd be a damned fool to f*ck a chick that told you on the first date that she tried to kill herself. I'll put it in perspective for you: She dumped her emotions on you because she was viewing you as a beta.
I can almost promise you, if she were viewing you as an alpha, she would've kept that sh*t to herself and painted herself in the most awesome light ever.
And yes, it's a limiting belief. I'll put it like this. I had a female friend that tried to convince me that the last three boyfriends she had were all abusive and that she doesn't "know how" that happened.
Well...
One abusive boyfriend? That sucks, better luck next time.
Two abusive boyfriends? Damn girl, you got some bad luck?
Three abusive boyfriends? Nah, chick -- you love violent men.
If you're repeatedly "attracting crazies," that means there's something in crazies that you like.
Now THIS is helpful.
How can I come across as alpha instead then?
I don't know the perfect answer to this question, but here is one thing I can think of off the top of my mind for that exact situation or one similar.
You can say "Can we talk about something else, I don't care about your ex boyfriends, it's irrelevant"
That's a pretty alpha statement in my opinion and they will see that you're not just an emotional tampon they can throw baggage on.
(keep in mind the result will vary from women to women and this might repel or attract the person depending on who they are)
I think though in general calling them out on bullshit in a calm way like this is alpha.