03-29-2017, 01:30 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-29-2017, 01:32 PM by SargeMaximus.)
(03-29-2017, 11:21 AM)Mystic Pymp Wrote:(03-29-2017, 08:42 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: The Russian I went out with on V-Day told me she wanted to off herself too. We bonded over the mutual struggle with it throughout our lives. Not the best way to spend a date, and it certainly didn't help make things sexy.
I talked to my social skills coach about it, he says it's prolly that I'm giving off something that makers people trust me, but that I need to have clear boundaries in that regard.
He says there's nothing wrong with wanting to f*ck the girl and having her either play ball or get out. It's not up to us to be her therapist.
Well, first of all don't stick into a crazy. I've learnt that the hard way.
Secondly I'm not sure if I understand you correctly but it sounds like you consider only having contact with females to have sex. I can feel sorry for her and want to help her as simply her friend. And as long as I don't feel used it's perfectly fine. You learn a lot of humility hearing stories like hers.
I'm sorry if I offend you and understood you wrong, but if you consider meeting with women with issues just to f*ck them you've got some serious issues right there. Do I want her? Sure, but I would not "have her either play ball or get out" unless she would start teasing me or using me.
Of course I felt sorry for her. Like I said, we bonded over the suicide thing because I myself have wanted to commit suicide but I tried to show her how you can overcome it. At the same time: I'm not her therapist, so it's not appropriate first date stuff to talk about.
The way I see it: what's wrong with having a fling? We can both take our minds off whatever shit we've been through in the past.
