(03-18-2017, 01:15 PM)Shannon Wrote:(03-18-2017, 12:55 PM)CatMan Wrote: I figured the answer would be along those lines.
I guess the bottom line is, I'll have to see it in action in person, when/if that happens. I was always wondering how me listening to a sub, makes a girl I'm attracted to approach me for sex. I guess I fail to see how those dots get connected, from me listening to a sub and checking her out or already being attracted to her, to her somehow making a move due to the same sub.
In time if it works, it won't matter, indeed. But, I was always unsure how that all works, which probably made it harder to get behind.
Why not just relax then? Being skeptical because you don't have all the dots to connect and making it harder to get behind is just another way to make it harder for yourself to get the results. If DMSI works, you don't need to be invested in believing it will or does work, just like you don't need to be invested in trying to defeat it if it doesn't work.
Just be neutral, and let the program do its thing. You don't need to do anything else with regards to the program itself.
We don't always have all the answers to see how or why something works. That doesn't make it work less when it does, or more when it doesn't.
Oh I get that concept.
I've probably been acutely sensitive to why things won't work with women and more focused on that, due to the past and beliefs formed from it. Never mind the decades of different crap I've tried over the years, further clouding things. So certainty seems to be important, or doubt is created, or doubt is the natural state due to the past and beliefs formed through it, I don't know.
I am far better at being detached than versions ago, that's for sure. Although, as I've said in my journal, I don't know if that's the sub making me less needy etc. or if it's a sense of brewing futility. I guess it may take actually seeing a girl give me a clear real signal this is legit working, to truly open up to it once and for all. Anything less will just allow that doubt to fester again due to everything up to this. That will probably be a few versions away if even then, I've already accepted I will be one of the last to see the program work in reality.
