12-13-2011, 03:08 AM
@Woyce-its funny you bring up the gay thing
because one of the girls I had sex with this weekend said the following while we were lying in bed together before we had sex
'oh my god I'm in love with you already, you have to be gay, your totally gay aren't you'
I think she was trying to justify to how incredibly fast everything happened both for herself and since she has a boyfriend who lives in another country-she literally asked me to come home and cuddle with her-what did she expect-although maybe something in sex magnet gives off a certain kind of total non-neediness towards woman which woman experience as gay-since straight MAN=Hornball for most modern urban woman lol
@Spiral and Woyce
my experience is having more sex in your life may seem like the farthest thing away in the world
EVEN if you are indifferent to it and desire it and feel sexy as hell..AND can flirt well etc. but if you just keep putting yourself in new situations and in places you like with the kind of girls you like-one day it will just happen...and it will be awesome, even if it sucks, cause it happened and your pysched about that-and all of a sudden its something that COULD happen again, its something really in your reality and then it starts happening more and more consistently and at a certain point-having that kind of pleasure/deep intimacy becomes a necessarily thing in your life-you realize it really does make you a more at ease person, especially if the woman really appreciates you. Not necessary like need but necessary like healthy food for feeling your best, or doing things you love-you just wont except a life without it and you'll take all the necessary steps to keep making it happen without being to invested in it.
@Spiral I thinks its awesome your carefree about it and love to spend alot of the time playing the drums and watching movies, but no disrespect, how could you seriously expect sex to come into your life if you don't leave the house? I may spend 12 hours straight playing modern warfare-but sure as shiznit I'm out the next three nights in a row putting myself around hot woman. Not saying do night life-but you like biking, cooking, and movies, so just start up conversations at the grocery store, movie theater/video rental, and/or bike shop, no need to pursue just put yourself out there both literally and mentally.
@woyce-I didn't lose my virginity until 19 and I was so desperate that it was to a prostitute in Amsterdam while I was high on weed and tripping on something in my tea-I'd say your doing fine
It seems to me like you have less a fear of actual sex and more a fear of hurting woman or 'using' them-it sounds like you believe in yourself totally but you don't believe in woman enough-lol
give some girl who likes you a chance-and realize that literally anything could happen-
because one of the girls I had sex with this weekend said the following while we were lying in bed together before we had sex
'oh my god I'm in love with you already, you have to be gay, your totally gay aren't you'
I think she was trying to justify to how incredibly fast everything happened both for herself and since she has a boyfriend who lives in another country-she literally asked me to come home and cuddle with her-what did she expect-although maybe something in sex magnet gives off a certain kind of total non-neediness towards woman which woman experience as gay-since straight MAN=Hornball for most modern urban woman lol
@Spiral and Woyce
my experience is having more sex in your life may seem like the farthest thing away in the world
EVEN if you are indifferent to it and desire it and feel sexy as hell..AND can flirt well etc. but if you just keep putting yourself in new situations and in places you like with the kind of girls you like-one day it will just happen...and it will be awesome, even if it sucks, cause it happened and your pysched about that-and all of a sudden its something that COULD happen again, its something really in your reality and then it starts happening more and more consistently and at a certain point-having that kind of pleasure/deep intimacy becomes a necessarily thing in your life-you realize it really does make you a more at ease person, especially if the woman really appreciates you. Not necessary like need but necessary like healthy food for feeling your best, or doing things you love-you just wont except a life without it and you'll take all the necessary steps to keep making it happen without being to invested in it.
@Spiral I thinks its awesome your carefree about it and love to spend alot of the time playing the drums and watching movies, but no disrespect, how could you seriously expect sex to come into your life if you don't leave the house? I may spend 12 hours straight playing modern warfare-but sure as shiznit I'm out the next three nights in a row putting myself around hot woman. Not saying do night life-but you like biking, cooking, and movies, so just start up conversations at the grocery store, movie theater/video rental, and/or bike shop, no need to pursue just put yourself out there both literally and mentally.
@woyce-I didn't lose my virginity until 19 and I was so desperate that it was to a prostitute in Amsterdam while I was high on weed and tripping on something in my tea-I'd say your doing fine
It seems to me like you have less a fear of actual sex and more a fear of hurting woman or 'using' them-it sounds like you believe in yourself totally but you don't believe in woman enough-lol
give some girl who likes you a chance-and realize that literally anything could happen-
1. There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
