01-23-2017, 09:17 AM
@bits
I wanted to take time to thoughtfully consider your post.
I always appreciate your insightful, thoughtful, and comprehensive answers! Thank you!
Being the opposite of aloof... could you say a bit more about that. That "being aloof" has been dogma that's been drilled into our heads for years by "experts".
Being in a good mood is something I could do better because I often approach more to the neutral side.
Thinking about funny moments to get that state on the inside is a great concrete method!
I do need to do most of the initial talking and keep it light. That is spot on! I tend to want to ask more in depth questions because I want to know who I'm talking with. Although this has worked for me in the past, I now get these confused stares. So I think you're right that they are in their heads in an introverted way and feeling attracted to me or viewing as higher status, and I bet they are not used to that.
I need to tone down the James Bond. That again is spot on.
Looking up interviews of celebrities with people who don't usually interview such people is a great idea! I watched a few interviews with Brad Pitt, and think I have an idea of what you're talking about. His body language is relaxed, and from time to time he's self-effacing. He also is humble such as explaining what he does as hard work over talent. He accepts his praise by also talking about something he did that was naive on the way to his success. When ever someone tries to elevate him, he takes himself off that pedestal. Were there other things you think are examples of what he does?
I wanted to take time to thoughtfully consider your post.
I always appreciate your insightful, thoughtful, and comprehensive answers! Thank you!
Being the opposite of aloof... could you say a bit more about that. That "being aloof" has been dogma that's been drilled into our heads for years by "experts".
Being in a good mood is something I could do better because I often approach more to the neutral side.
Thinking about funny moments to get that state on the inside is a great concrete method!
I do need to do most of the initial talking and keep it light. That is spot on! I tend to want to ask more in depth questions because I want to know who I'm talking with. Although this has worked for me in the past, I now get these confused stares. So I think you're right that they are in their heads in an introverted way and feeling attracted to me or viewing as higher status, and I bet they are not used to that.
I need to tone down the James Bond. That again is spot on.
Looking up interviews of celebrities with people who don't usually interview such people is a great idea! I watched a few interviews with Brad Pitt, and think I have an idea of what you're talking about. His body language is relaxed, and from time to time he's self-effacing. He also is humble such as explaining what he does as hard work over talent. He accepts his praise by also talking about something he did that was naive on the way to his success. When ever someone tries to elevate him, he takes himself off that pedestal. Were there other things you think are examples of what he does?
