01-16-2017, 09:01 PM
(01-16-2017, 03:45 PM)Shannon Wrote: I was raised to be polite and courteous. Little things, like you greet people when you see them, and say goodbye when you're leaving. You acknowledge them as a sign of respect and/or consideration in conversation, and you pay attention when they speak if you're having a conversation with them. Simple social graces and courtesies. But these things went out the window with the advent of the Internet, and the cell phone. Sad, but true.
I had to spend a long time learning not to take things personally, get upset because I had expectations of social conduct and manners that were no longer being observed, and expectations that women would communicate, act and think like I did.
I'm just offering you the short course on what I spent a long time learning.
First of all, my apologies to previous lashing out. And secondly, I don't think I was pissed about the courtesy issue, but rather things literally not changing for me. It just piled up and that it just exploded. I suppose since I am a human being, I can only tolerate only so much and can get rid of so much of expectations.
And the worst part of it may be that I may end up doing something similar. So a girl who liked me got back to me, and we have chatted a bit, and that it doesn't feel like we're clicking. I bought some time by saying that I'll let her know when I know about my schedule (conveniently I have beginning of the semester excuse), but I don't know, and I feel like I am treating the person terribly. (I did a bit of background check and got to see more of her pictures, but I am not into her, rather I am even more turned down.)
Anyway, I'm not going to take things personally, and will make my mind up soon whether to press with this or call it quits. (And if I quit, I think I better say it up front instead of just ignoring the person.)
