11-02-2011, 11:25 AM
As for losing one's virginity, I'll toss my 2c in. The best advice I can offer is this. Your first time is going to be something you will never, ever forget, good or bad. Do your best to find someone understanding, who will make it as positive an experience as possible. Don't expect to be a sex god your first time, or second, or tenth, or fiftieth. Make sure she knows beforehand that you're a virgin, and this is your first time. And ask her to show you what is what between her legs and what to do with it. How to touch her, not just there, but her breasts, and other places. Be gentle with her, be humble, ask for directions, be considerate, and learn how to breathe through your ears. 
Trust me, most women who have any level of maturity at all would be thrilled to show you how to please them sexually, if you just ask. And a good one will go to great lengths to teach you what to do and how to do it. The key is to be humble. The older you are when you lose it, the more humble you have to be about it.
Use a condom, cause babies happen. And lube, too, if necessary, because condoms can break if she's not wet enough. That happened my first time. She was so anxious to get started that she was still dry, and the condom broke after a few strokes. Condoms also help with self control. Learn how to put it on before you are in the situation, if you don't already know how. That was a big reason I lost my virginity late - the girls I had around were absolutely merciless if a guy didn't already know what he was doing. I was terrified of being laughed at and having my reputation destroyed at school.
And finally... if she's willing to go that far, and she has a boyfriend... think long and hard before accepting. Or turning her down. But not too long, because females are fickle creatures when it comes to sex, and she may rescind her offer if you take too long. I was offered a night of fun at the beach with a friend's girlfriend, and I turned it down because she was my friend's girlfriend. Only to find that he really wasn't my friend, and she would have been my best option for losing my virginity to...
Hope this helps a little.
If I could go back and do it again... I'd give me this same exact advice.
Trust me, most women who have any level of maturity at all would be thrilled to show you how to please them sexually, if you just ask. And a good one will go to great lengths to teach you what to do and how to do it. The key is to be humble. The older you are when you lose it, the more humble you have to be about it.
Use a condom, cause babies happen. And lube, too, if necessary, because condoms can break if she's not wet enough. That happened my first time. She was so anxious to get started that she was still dry, and the condom broke after a few strokes. Condoms also help with self control. Learn how to put it on before you are in the situation, if you don't already know how. That was a big reason I lost my virginity late - the girls I had around were absolutely merciless if a guy didn't already know what he was doing. I was terrified of being laughed at and having my reputation destroyed at school.
And finally... if she's willing to go that far, and she has a boyfriend... think long and hard before accepting. Or turning her down. But not too long, because females are fickle creatures when it comes to sex, and she may rescind her offer if you take too long. I was offered a night of fun at the beach with a friend's girlfriend, and I turned it down because she was my friend's girlfriend. Only to find that he really wasn't my friend, and she would have been my best option for losing my virginity to...
Hope this helps a little.
If I could go back and do it again... I'd give me this same exact advice.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
