Interesting convo with my wife in bed as we watched a show a little bit ago. In the show, a girl admitted she cheated on her fiance. My wife says, "See, I don't get why she told him. I think it's selfish. All she was doing was projecting her guilt onto the other person."
I dug deeper. "Ok, so your ex, D, cheated on you in high school. Is it because he was so publicly nonchalant about it, that's what made you mad?"
Her: "Yes. I wasn't mad that he slept with someone else. I didn't even care. It's how he went about it, and made me look stupid in front of everyone at school."
Me: "So you felt disrespected because he went about it so publicly and didn't think about how it made people perceive you?"
Her: "Yes."
Me: "So if he had been more discreet, you would have been fine with it?"
Her: "Yes."
She asked if I saw where she was coming from, and I said yes. I then said she'd have a responsibility to tell him if she contracted an STD or got pregnant, and "in that case" she (my wife) agreed that THEN you'd say something.
She furthermore said that emotional cheating is much worse than sex. "Sex is just sex, it's not a big deal."
Is my aura bringing these thoughts out of her? She's never been this candid with me on the subject, but she's hinted at some of these things in the past. Now, she's asleep and I'm laying here awake thinking, "Huh, wtf just happened?"
I dug deeper. "Ok, so your ex, D, cheated on you in high school. Is it because he was so publicly nonchalant about it, that's what made you mad?"
Her: "Yes. I wasn't mad that he slept with someone else. I didn't even care. It's how he went about it, and made me look stupid in front of everyone at school."
Me: "So you felt disrespected because he went about it so publicly and didn't think about how it made people perceive you?"
Her: "Yes."
Me: "So if he had been more discreet, you would have been fine with it?"
Her: "Yes."
She asked if I saw where she was coming from, and I said yes. I then said she'd have a responsibility to tell him if she contracted an STD or got pregnant, and "in that case" she (my wife) agreed that THEN you'd say something.
She furthermore said that emotional cheating is much worse than sex. "Sex is just sex, it's not a big deal."
Is my aura bringing these thoughts out of her? She's never been this candid with me on the subject, but she's hinted at some of these things in the past. Now, she's asleep and I'm laying here awake thinking, "Huh, wtf just happened?"
