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[Patti]

Shannon my more direct and assertive approach to calling people out on there crap, almost led to me quitting if not almost fired because of my work environment.

I am not complaining about any of the subs they work wonders and i love them and wont stop using them.

I was telling you because they work so well and where i work with the disabled try to pull fast ones over everyone. I called one of them out on there lying and bullsh** that they spewed to my boss and sternly told them if they had a problem with me or my position to talk to me about it. (o he is a high functioning client so he knows what he is doing and what is right and wrong)

Well we settled it in a handshake and it was lunch time. Well when i come back from lunch i find out he went and told the other clients that i called them all retarded because i worked with them. I would never say that about them i love working with them. Well i told my boss that if this sh** didn't stop i was going to quit i am tired of all the Bull sh**.

Well he talked to the clients manager and she had us both come into her office. where he recounted the first 5 min of our conversation to her and threw in the bit of calling all of my coworkers client or staff retarded in there. Well she tried to stay neutral but mostly landed with him on his side because he is the client. Then he lied to her repeatedly with more bs like how he looks up to me and whatever stuff to make her fall for his manipulation.

I ended up getting chewed out and him not even getting suspended for lying and doing all this bs. I almost quit right there, if my boss and the rest of management can't respect me or the rest of the staff on the floor then why should i continue to work there.

I understand to earn respect through your actions which the clients manager told me what i did with calling the client out was unacceptable and if i have a problem to get her or my boss... She said that if I ever get that angry again to not be in the same area as the client spewing the sh**. I couldn't move him somewhere else because that would be a punishment he apparently didn't deserve...

I understand now he did it all so that one he can control me and know he dose not get fired for it and that he can use it to leverage where ever he wants to work because they coddle the clients. Funny thing is he thought of himself as a Staff (my position) and asked to be treated like a staff and well that is what i did but he ran to my boss and his boss as a client.

Throw in night school and raising a son and you’d have my daughters life! lol

This post was a while ago, so I’m not sure what’s going on now. But what I would suggest is that set a meeting with your boss at a time when you are not angry about any given situation. Make some notes of what you expect from him stating the first to be respect! Make it known that your productiveness as an employee/teacher/manager depends on his cooperation. Tell him how dissatisfied your were in his decision to side with this person over you, as you are a staff member and the people under you need too see the respect he has for you in order for them to respect you and your position. Ask him how exactly he came to the decision he came too. For some reason, he’s putting this other guy on your level, when in actuality he should be putting you more on his own level. You need to find out why he would believe this person over you.

Let me show what respect looks like because it’s what you deserve in your position and job description. My daughter is a facilitator for a school that is for disadvantaged children of all kinds, from autism to behavior problems and everything in between. In one respect, it’s the last stop before juvi. She was with high school aged kids for 2 years and is now with 1st and 2nd graders, both equally challenging.

In the summer they run a camp where they go on days trips to fun places. One day this summer, she was going to a place near us that’s a water park/games place. She told me I could bring her son up to hang out with and play with the kids. We’ve done things before with her students so they all know him. We did go and of course I stayed with him the whole time.

There was another woman there, who has worked at the school for over 10 years, whom until this day, my daughter looked up to and thought of as a friend. However, as soon as the buses got back to the school, this woman went directly to the principle (who is new this year and hardly knows my daughter) complaining that my daughter had her son dropped off and wasn’t attending to the school children. It was a bunch of bs! As soon as my daughter got back, she was confronted by other staff member telling her what this woman had done. Needless to say, my daughter was furious! This was a Thursday and she knew there’d be a meeting with the principle about the situation, which did occur on the following Monday.

On Tuesday, the woman making the accusation…was fired!

The point being, my daughter has amazing respect from all of her bosses because of the way she does her job. You need to find out why your boss doesn’t have the same type of for you. And you need to point blank ask him! I don’t care what the laws are Tony, someone in your position has to be taken seriously by your authority figures or these people are gonna get away with taking advantage of you and others. Sometimes we have to demand respect and you need to stand up for yourself here and find out why you’re not getting it!