11-22-2016, 04:28 PM
(11-22-2016, 04:04 PM)Shannon Wrote: Every time I start to explain, and you take interest, you ask me a series of questions, and I spend a lot of time and effort in answering, and then you find ways or reasons to disregard what I have said. So I'm not explaining anymore, because either you don't want to actually get it, or somehow I am not communicating effectively or both.
As for the snap behavior change... there was a reason. She just didn't tell you what it was. Women assume men can read minds.
Hmm, well there's got to be a way. Obviously I'm not understanding you, but I don't believe that communication is impossible, otherwise languages couldn't be translated.
As for disregarding things, it's easy to disregard something when I have proof from my life's experience that it hasn't worked that way in the past. If you were to tell me, for example, that women DON'T have sex with skinny guys (just as an example) and I then asked you "how come there is a porn video with a skinny guy banging a girl then?" that wouldn't be invalid. Nor would it be a failure to understand what you're saying. It would be a valid contradiction to what you've stated as fact.
In much the same way, I have experiences that disprove what is usually said. The problem is, instead of recognizing these anomalies, I'm branded as someone who is "beating their head against a wall" or other such nonsense.
In thje example above, that would be like me bringing up that bit about the skinny guy and then you (or whoever, doesn't have to be you. Could be anyone) says "dude, until you stop being so stubborn, you'll never get it". Now tell me how that even makes sense?
So I hope you can see that this isn't just an ego trip, a failure to "get" something, or a stubbornness but, perhaps, it's a stance coming from direct experience.
Now, I don't know how to reconcile this (I certainly can't lie to myself and say "yeah, skinny guys don't have sex with women" as an example. Meaning: I can't disregard the experiences I've had, and until they can be dis-proven, I will be stuck UNLESS an explanation can change or negate the experience.
I just don't know. I have so much desire and will to understand this but something is definitely not adding up, so I need to find out what.
And obviously I'm the newb here, but I don't understand why some things can not be explained unless, of course, those explaining them have no idea themselves.
Let me ask you this: In regards to the woman in the library, do YOU know the reason for the 180? If so, what was it?
