11-20-2016, 01:52 PM
(This post was last modified: 11-20-2016, 02:24 PM by SargeMaximus.)
(11-20-2016, 01:36 PM)robstar Wrote:(11-20-2016, 01:11 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: I dunno robstar, I approached a woman once who I helkd hands with right away and she was like "do women always let you touch them?" went on to get her saying later (when I was indeed getting tired of her behavior) "See, now you don't like me because I'm a cop" (She was a cop supposedly) anyhow I was like "no, it's just that you don't seem to be big on the touching, but I am so..."
Later she grabbed my hand and we kept talking. I got her number too but it wasn't meant to be.
I dunno, still too needy?
The problem I have with the "walk away" school of thought is that I'd be walking away from every girl. Shit tests drive me up the wall, so does their faulty logic, self-centeredness, the way they talk, everything. So yeah, I don't know how you reconcile all that. It's one thing to walk away because you have options, but it's another to be walking away all the time.
It seems like you showed you were willing to walk away, you basically implied you like touching and she doesn't so it wouldn't work out between you.. obviously it got her chasing you if she grabbed your hand afterwards.. it was clearly her way of saying "see I'm totally OK with the touching!". Sounds like she was attracted in the moment, whatever reason it didn't work out afterwards wasn't from lack of it, maybe she started seeing someone else, or second-guessed the idea of going on a date with someone she barely knew, who knows.
As for the walking away, you gotta have some sort of tolerance for shit tests, just gotta find out where you draw the line. For me it's if a girl implies she feels she's higher value than me in some way, I don't want to be ***** a girl who is thinking "I'm letting this guy **** me", that's a turn-off for me. I've never been into the whole winning a girl over thing, she's either a hell-yes or a no.
Ok, cool. I appreciate the insight because being clueless just makes me start guessing myself into a hamster lol.
I don't like the whole "win the girl" thing either. Especially with impressing the girl or DHV is just... blech to me.
I wouldn't mind the "I'm letting this guy f*ck me" if that's what she needs to tell herself to still feel good about the situation.
