11-13-2016, 01:23 AM
(11-12-2016, 11:40 PM)Cozy Wrote: I understand Shannon, maybe you can ignore other people's judgments one or twice, but when you're constantly around people who misunderstand or criticize you, eventually you'll crack, it's just human nature.
I know the kind of person you're talking about, a person who makes their own rules and always has a high opinion of themselves, but even they have their limits, if they're in a group setting they will be influenced and change their actions to avoid criticism.
You can't avoid human nature, it would be best just to work with it.
Errr...then I would change the people I'm around and find more like minded friends.
Regarding my friends, this has happened to me and I simply made the decision to move away from those people i once resonated with and connect with people who share similar goals (speaking just of the friends side of this situation).
Also, strong spirited people generally don't change their behavior to suit those around them. Being who they are naturally helps them attract those they get along with anyway. Otherwise they're just pandering to people they may not want to be around. It really doesn't make sense that a strong assertive person would change their ways to suit the opinions of others. That's what makes them strong and assertive; they are unwilling to adjust themselves to work within a level of behavior that they disagree with. Weak spirited people, maybe. Strong spirited? Nope.
One personal example I'll share is my own family. There isn't a trace of entrepreneurial ambition that i can find aside from myself, and it's always rough talking to them about any of my stuff. But I have somehow kept my course despite a wave of criticism and constant judgement.
This wasn't being resistant to their judgements once or twice...but for decades, and from multiple family members who are 10000% convinced they are right and i am wrong. But i know who i am and what i want, so they can't touch that. They aren't going to sway my core values since they're so off track from where I'm at.
If your last sentence was really true I would have given in and slogged away at a job like what they keep hammering at me, and I'd be in the same boat they are. But that hasn't happened. Despite their best efforts, I have yet to 'crack'
