I can understand men's concerns about women who might become difficult to the point of sabotaging or stalking. It only takes 1 of these experiences to shake your cage, or such a story from a close friend.
The good news is that in all my dating experience, I've only had 1 such experience. It lasted less than 24 hours. I confronted her. I told her that her behavior was unacceptable and she needed to stop it immediately. Problem solved.
So although I think it would be nice to have a fail safe filter in there to weed out that very small percentage of women who could make life difficult, I think in the short term I'm fine without it because the chances are so low. However at some point, I would want such a filter.
For those of you who want that filter now, I might have some good news. There might already be a filter. I've suspected that the sniper effect or autopilot might be repelling women from me who I'm not interested in or are not my personality type. For me, a woman who would not be respectful of my boundaries is not my personality type. I can't prove that there is a repelling effect, but there have been a number of times where I lose interest or she does, and then she just disappears quietly. Even if she looks really gorgeous, sometimes I'm just not interested. So I suspect that subconsciously, I'm picking up on something that is a turn off, and I can only conclude that it's about her personality or personal habits.
The good news is that in all my dating experience, I've only had 1 such experience. It lasted less than 24 hours. I confronted her. I told her that her behavior was unacceptable and she needed to stop it immediately. Problem solved.
So although I think it would be nice to have a fail safe filter in there to weed out that very small percentage of women who could make life difficult, I think in the short term I'm fine without it because the chances are so low. However at some point, I would want such a filter.
For those of you who want that filter now, I might have some good news. There might already be a filter. I've suspected that the sniper effect or autopilot might be repelling women from me who I'm not interested in or are not my personality type. For me, a woman who would not be respectful of my boundaries is not my personality type. I can't prove that there is a repelling effect, but there have been a number of times where I lose interest or she does, and then she just disappears quietly. Even if she looks really gorgeous, sometimes I'm just not interested. So I suspect that subconsciously, I'm picking up on something that is a turn off, and I can only conclude that it's about her personality or personal habits.
