Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Shannon]

Shannon, is it possible for a girl to recognize you as an ascendant alpha? What happens when she does?

Yes.

She will almost always decide she wants to be part of your inner circle - whether that is as a friend, lover, relational partner, etc. Depends on how your personalities mesh, and what you allow her to do.

It is also possible that she becomes a dedicated opponent, but that's rare, and typically only happens with insecure control freaks who are afraid of you for not being someone they can control.

That happened with a girl in my class. She complained about me twice and people just assumed she was right. She is very very hot and is always surronded by 3 or more orbiters. Since i have my own life and friends she was challenged or something.
Thank god she layed off me now.

People automatically believe females. The hotter they are, the more emphasis is placed on it. When I was in HS, I tried to help a really ugly girl with her depression by befriending her. She decided she wanted me to take her virginity, and when I would not, she told everyone that I had tried and failed because I was a lousy lover. The truth was, I was a damned virgin. But nobody even bothered to ask if what she said was true. Even my own friends automatically believed her story. Which was completely false.

This is what has happened to me with the girl I just broke up with. Not the details of course but just people believing everything she says and no one even asking me what my version of the story is. What gives? She's turned one of my friendship circle against me. What can I do in this situation? I feel so powerless.

Make people think instead of just go on their irrational desire to believe by default.

Ask them questions like... why do you believe her without ever having even asked for my side of the story? Does she have any incentive to lie? What would mine be?

Whatever questions force them to THINK and get it. And be demanding! Be loud! Get upset! And then explain that you are upset because you are being lied about, and nobody is even questioning her lies because she's female, and nobody is thinking at all. Ask them... how would you feel in my shoes?

The key is to get them to use more than one and a half brain cells. If they have that many. Get them to understand your point of view.