11-06-2016, 10:48 PM
(11-06-2016, 09:57 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(11-06-2016, 09:43 PM)2Cozy Wrote: Was it the first date? I don’t think anything’s wrong with making a move on a girl, but you just have to gauge where she’s at, it’s kind of like your leading her through it, like reading someone a story. You just always have to watch where she’s at, if you do too much you give away too much power and she’ll get scared, if you do to little she might feel like she’s wasting her time. Not too hot, not too cold, it just has to be smooth. Don’t see her as a hot girl, just see her a person you’re getting to know, and be the best you. And relax. After a while you can do it like clockwork.
Yeah it was the first date.
And now, this is where it gets confusing and actually gives me a headache every time I try to figure this shit out. But I thought I was supposed to be able to be masculine, "impose my will", set the frame, bring the girl into my reality, and all that shit, but then there's the other aspect of "go at her pace", check in with her, make sure she's ok, etc.
So which is it? I don't get it and it drives me insane (literally. I'm probably more likely to get admitted to a mental hospital than i am to get laid at this point, only slightly joking).
I don't understand how it all works. If I didn't know better, i'd say sleeping with a girl is more an exercise of me getting her to do what she wants, than me doing what i want.
It's never just one thing, it's a bit of everything. You have to know how to push the envelope but also not lose your "prey". It's a game, just know the rules and keep trying to play, getting better at it and never taking it personally. That's the most important part I think, never taking it personally.
1st of all, you can always get a girl back, trust me, always. Even if you don't want her.
2nd of all, there's like a million fish in the sea.
Next time just ask her if you can kiss her. You have to at least make her think you respect her.
