Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Cozy]

Sarge try this, next time you are around a girl who's giving you iois, come up with a "plan" like for example, ask her to go to the mall or a restaurant with you, anywhere, just move her around and spend more and more time with her. Eventually she'll ask you to go to her place or you can ask her to go to your place, but not too seriously (just gauge where she's at) she'll give you the right signs or tell you if she's ready.

When you finally do get alone with her, just act it out if you're not comfortable, hold her, escalate but watch to see how comfortable she is. If it gets down to it, and she says no, always back away but try again after a little while, she will just want to know that she has control over the situation, you may not get it that day, but the next day when she's thought about it your chances are higher.

And also sometimes girls will act disinterested but really they're just trying to respect themselves and not give away too much power, just gauge that and do as much as you think you can get away with. If you do it this way the power will always be in your hands, and you'll always get what you want.

Yeah I dunno man. I went on a date with a girl once where she was avoiding me during it. It was so weird. I'd go for a kiss and she'd move to the other end of the table and stuff so eventually I decided to end it. The weird thing is, she seemed comfortable around me just not aroused maybe. I dunno, it's so confusing to me.

She let me put my arm around her waist and stuff too just, I dunno, it was weird.

I texted her a few days later to set up a second date but she never got back to me so I have no clue what I did wrong or what happened.

Was it the first date? I don’t think anything’s wrong with making a move on a girl, but you just have to gauge where she’s at, it’s kind of like your leading her through it, like reading someone a story. You just always have to watch where she’s at, if you do too much you give away too much power and she’ll get scared, if you do to little she might feel like she’s wasting her time. Not too hot, not too cold, it just has to be smooth. Don’t see her as a hot girl, just see her a person you’re getting to know, and be the best you. And relax. After a while you can do it like clockwork.