(11-06-2016, 06:02 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: So, there it is. I know I don't "get" it yet, but I also don't think I deserve a lashing when I'm actively trying to work on this shit.
Yeah, you're right. Pardon me. I'm still getting used to the new personality shifts that these subliminals are causing. Makes me unaware when I'm being caustic until I catch myself.
I'm not saying that approaching women "PUA style" is the "right" way to do it. Everyone has their own style. If you notice, I'm not the biggest day game type. That being said, I've all but mastered the online dating thing. The argument I was making is that you're NOT "giving away your power" by approaching women.
But again, approaching women "day game" style may not be your thing. Perhaps it's club game. Perhaps you'd do better having friends hook you up blind date style.
OR, perhaps "every woman" isn't losing interest when you approach. It's possible that's just a limiting belief holding you back. OR, maybe you're coming on too strong when you approach. OR, maybe you're not being aggressive enough. Try all different avenues and see what works for you, then develop it like a skill.
For example: I'm good at boxing. I wasn't born good at boxing. However, in regards to martial arts, I'm a much better striker than a grappler. In fact, it seems like I have a natural inclination for striking. Thus, I develop that skill, because that's what I have sufficient evidence that it'll work for me.
The last time I engaged with you on this, you said my style of dealing with women was "weird," and you preferred what Sickologist does. Ok, cool -- but is Sickologist's style YOUR style? I've said this before -- Sick has a very honed and focused mind -- his style isn't something you just emulate if you aren't a natural. It's like, in boxing, everyone wants to emulate Muhammad Ali. Ali isn't a fighter you try to copy. He makes a lot of technical mistakes, like crossing his legs and leaving his hands down. So, why was Ali so good? Because, his fighting style mimicked his thought patterns (as above, so below). He probably couldn't teach you how he was able to do the things he did. He's just Ali.
You have to develop Sarge style. Just as I developed chaos style. I could tell you my style, but you'd just be like "wtf, that sounds weird," and I'd get it. To the outsider, who isn't me, who hasn't honed that process, it DOES sound weird. My style involves identifying a particular type of woman -- one with dreams of grandeur and a killer imagination -- and then using my ability to write and spin yarns to suck them out of reality and into my fantasy. For example, the chick I'm closing on now. Here's the convo. We matched on OkCupid. When you match (both click the like button), it sends a message to both parties saying, "You Liked Each Other!"
Her: Looks like it! So, what's this empire you're building?
Me: The kind that, when finished, will grant me a level of freedom that most will only people dream about.
Her: What do you mean?
Me: Picture me winning an Oscar with you hanging off my arm.
Her: That sounds amaaazing
Are you looking for purely financial freedom or something more?Me: Somewhere between both.
Her: So you're not gonna tell me exactly what it is?
Me: I'll tell you over drinks, after I finish flirting with you. We flip to see who pays. That is, once you hand over your number.
Her:
[Insert Number Here]I bet you think that's weird. But it works. A lot. And I can prove it if I must. And when I go out on the date, I'll hit them with my fantastical stories of Mexico and traveling up and down the West Coast (LA, San Francisco, etc).
Now -- ask yourself, what is SARGE STYLE? When does your personality, in whatever manifestation it takes, shine the most? Mine is when I'm performing and telling stories. Sickologist is a straight up badass and enigma. Sarge is ______?
The fact of the matter is, you have a lot of people with experience with women saying approaching works. At this point, you have two choices: You can say that we're all lying or imagining things, and relying on your own experience that isn't leading to results. Or, you can question your own methods to see if there's something you're missing.
