11-06-2016, 10:03 AM
Sounds you’re in a pretty good place right now but don’t know where to take it next? If I got your post right, then what’s below will have some relevance.
I think there is something scary in having options and no direction; knowing you can throw all your resource at something, and have everything lined up to help you (youth, money, looks, social advantage), but you’re afraid of wasted effort if you don’t get there fast enough, or what you may be missing somewhere else while you’re chasing the first thing. I don’t know you and I may be off mark, but some points you raise have some resemblance to guys I’ve worked with over years. I think its consumerist self-absorption that was brainwashed into us. It’s my theory. All the options laid out in front of you, you have the urge to consume and get involved but you don’t want to get lost in it or invest too much. Have you noticed how people are afraid of falling in love nowadays? Why – it’s the ultimate loss, you lose your control, your freedom, you expose of yourself too much. You’re supposed not to get involved in anything too much at this day and age, right? If you can’t follow your heart and do something that defies the odds, something that takes all your strength, all your attention, all your time, all your thoughts, what is your motivation otherwise? I’m talking about being a romantic hero, to defy everybody else’s rules and create your own and stick to them. Have sh*t happen to you. Make sh*t happen. Find what makes you tick. Find something that will strip you down to your bare essentials, where you can start building up. Something that is so essential to you that everything else seems trivial and distracting. We’re not one dimensional beings, but having a passion in life that is your guiding star makes life an unpredictable and exciting adventure.
What is it to you, I don’t know - or if you’re looking for it at all. Maybe it is falling in love. Maybe it’s being a provider, or artist, survivor, warrior, something only you can define. When I was of your age, war was upon us in Croatia; we were at font line, my town was bombarded, neighbours killed; I had less than no money, yet my parents got me through university. When you’re in situation like that, you grab the first opportunity by the neck and never let go. I’m relatively well-off now, and I got here through working tirelessly and never doubting my abilities; it became my passion. I’m still working hard but I’m more complacent now – the only thing left to do is to start running my own business. Every day I want to finish off a little bit better than yesterday – doing more, knowing more, providing and finding time for my family, for myself, and essentially never being in sh*tty situation that I have no control over again. I believe (I hope) in your 20’s you’re starting off a whole lot better and I hope you get a lot further than I did; what defines you in the end is up to you to find, but my advice is not to be afraid of letting go once you find it, and give it all you have. Don’t calculate too much and worry about what everybody else is doing. In the end, it’s your decision what you do absolutely, my flavour is, for at least one thing, give it all you got.
I think there is something scary in having options and no direction; knowing you can throw all your resource at something, and have everything lined up to help you (youth, money, looks, social advantage), but you’re afraid of wasted effort if you don’t get there fast enough, or what you may be missing somewhere else while you’re chasing the first thing. I don’t know you and I may be off mark, but some points you raise have some resemblance to guys I’ve worked with over years. I think its consumerist self-absorption that was brainwashed into us. It’s my theory. All the options laid out in front of you, you have the urge to consume and get involved but you don’t want to get lost in it or invest too much. Have you noticed how people are afraid of falling in love nowadays? Why – it’s the ultimate loss, you lose your control, your freedom, you expose of yourself too much. You’re supposed not to get involved in anything too much at this day and age, right? If you can’t follow your heart and do something that defies the odds, something that takes all your strength, all your attention, all your time, all your thoughts, what is your motivation otherwise? I’m talking about being a romantic hero, to defy everybody else’s rules and create your own and stick to them. Have sh*t happen to you. Make sh*t happen. Find what makes you tick. Find something that will strip you down to your bare essentials, where you can start building up. Something that is so essential to you that everything else seems trivial and distracting. We’re not one dimensional beings, but having a passion in life that is your guiding star makes life an unpredictable and exciting adventure.
What is it to you, I don’t know - or if you’re looking for it at all. Maybe it is falling in love. Maybe it’s being a provider, or artist, survivor, warrior, something only you can define. When I was of your age, war was upon us in Croatia; we were at font line, my town was bombarded, neighbours killed; I had less than no money, yet my parents got me through university. When you’re in situation like that, you grab the first opportunity by the neck and never let go. I’m relatively well-off now, and I got here through working tirelessly and never doubting my abilities; it became my passion. I’m still working hard but I’m more complacent now – the only thing left to do is to start running my own business. Every day I want to finish off a little bit better than yesterday – doing more, knowing more, providing and finding time for my family, for myself, and essentially never being in sh*tty situation that I have no control over again. I believe (I hope) in your 20’s you’re starting off a whole lot better and I hope you get a lot further than I did; what defines you in the end is up to you to find, but my advice is not to be afraid of letting go once you find it, and give it all you have. Don’t calculate too much and worry about what everybody else is doing. In the end, it’s your decision what you do absolutely, my flavour is, for at least one thing, give it all you got.
