11-05-2016, 10:30 AM
(11-05-2016, 10:16 AM)RTBoss Wrote:(11-05-2016, 10:07 AM)Snoop Wrote:(11-05-2016, 08:01 AM)RTBoss Wrote: Any effects on your relationship with your wife?
Not much that would warrant reporting to be frank. But to be fair, we are taking care of a disabled child. Our 11 year old son is a high functioning autistic, but requires constant supervision. His behaviors (obsessions and meltdowns) has been a strain on our relationship since he was born. It's been a long slog but he's slowly improving. However, there is still a way to go for us to reach some sense of normalcy as a family. Because of his rigidity to rituals, one of us has to sleep with him each night. Otherwise, none of us are getting any sleep. So that does not leave us a lot of occasions for intimacy and sex. Four years ago, I was overweight with constant back aches and having difficulty keeping up with my son. I got fed up and I started running back again (In my youth, I was a long distance runner) to lose weight. As a result, I went from 210 to 165 lbs, btw, I am 5.9. I felt too skinny at 165 and decided to start weight lifting in addition to running about a year and half ago. I am now back at 185-190 with approximately 15 % body fat. I would like to bring the body fat percentage closer to 10%. I was hoping that the improved looks and the sub would increase attraction from my wife but I haven't noticed anything out of the ordinary apart from her occasionally saying that I am spending to much time taking care of my girlish figure .
Disclaimer: Previous to starting DMSI, my sub history has been two runs of AM6. There are a few things that I've have observed from my wife since I've started subs. She's deferring more to me when we have to make decisions (less arguing). As well, about 6 months ago, she's started back running to great effect and she's starting to look more attractive again (She's also lost weight).
Those two things tell me there's a possibility she's afraid of you stepping out on your marriage. She negs you for taking care of yourself (therefore being more attractive to other women), and now she's putting in more effort to make herself more attractive.
My uncle (dad's brother) is mentally handicapped, basically he's stuck at the age of a 5-year-old. I always wondered how that might have affected my grandparent's love life. They slept in bed together, at least. I can imagine not sleeping together has affected the intimacy of your relationship. Hope things keep on the up-and-up for you.
Thanks RTBoss. Yeah, you could be right. I've had a few complaints from her in the past that she thinks that I've been screwing around with one of my co-workers (never did, we're just good friends (she's married with kids), and making sure that it stays that way). To be honest, sometimes I feel tempted. I love my wife and my son and hope that I would try to think about the implications involved and the hurt it would bring if I was ever contemplating going down that route. But I do like to feel like a piece of meat.
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