Well...
I've been told I'm good looking or attractive so I'm above average I suppose even though I tend to doubt that. But that hasn't helped me much because my "wiring" is bad.
For men, looks aren't the be all end all like it is for women. There's a ton of wiggle room there. Plus, if you have the looks, but the "wiring" is bad, the looks don't really matter. Or the money, just to get THAT excuse dealt with beforehand as well. Plus, attraction is subjective, I know guys that don't think actresses or singers or models are hot, same deal for girls. Trust me, it's HUGELY subjective, it isn't this "hot or not" binary ranking and everyone in the world thinks the same. Do you like the girls your friends do always? See what I mean?
The truth is, I feel somewhat as you. I have doubts the program can take a guy like me, one with negative limiting beliefs, decades of failure with women resulting in no sex, no girlfriend, no date, no kiss, nothing my whole life, and give me power with women in my life and flip the script on them. Nobody here is in a more disadvantaged place than me, that even above average looks (according to others, not myself) and money still can't straighten things out for me. That either means that those things don't matter as much as you believe them to, or my "wiring" must be real bad or even both. But here I am using the program trying to better myself because I know that's the only option to improve.
Life is all about choices, and you have one to make here. You can rationalise away any success the program makes and never use it yourself because you're convinced it only works for x guys and only when you see it work for the worst guy possible will you believe. OR...use it yourself, and see if it works on YOU. Either you get a chance at growth by taking action, or you don't take action and don't get a chance at growth, that's what it boils down to. Your choice.
Personally, I hope you decide to take the plunge for your sake.
I've been told I'm good looking or attractive so I'm above average I suppose even though I tend to doubt that. But that hasn't helped me much because my "wiring" is bad.
For men, looks aren't the be all end all like it is for women. There's a ton of wiggle room there. Plus, if you have the looks, but the "wiring" is bad, the looks don't really matter. Or the money, just to get THAT excuse dealt with beforehand as well. Plus, attraction is subjective, I know guys that don't think actresses or singers or models are hot, same deal for girls. Trust me, it's HUGELY subjective, it isn't this "hot or not" binary ranking and everyone in the world thinks the same. Do you like the girls your friends do always? See what I mean?
The truth is, I feel somewhat as you. I have doubts the program can take a guy like me, one with negative limiting beliefs, decades of failure with women resulting in no sex, no girlfriend, no date, no kiss, nothing my whole life, and give me power with women in my life and flip the script on them. Nobody here is in a more disadvantaged place than me, that even above average looks (according to others, not myself) and money still can't straighten things out for me. That either means that those things don't matter as much as you believe them to, or my "wiring" must be real bad or even both. But here I am using the program trying to better myself because I know that's the only option to improve.
Life is all about choices, and you have one to make here. You can rationalise away any success the program makes and never use it yourself because you're convinced it only works for x guys and only when you see it work for the worst guy possible will you believe. OR...use it yourself, and see if it works on YOU. Either you get a chance at growth by taking action, or you don't take action and don't get a chance at growth, that's what it boils down to. Your choice.
Personally, I hope you decide to take the plunge for your sake.
