Alden attempts EPRHA (36d) ⇌ STM+OAAM

[alden]

Day 16
STM (75h 30m)
DAOS2 2nd Run (26h 21m)

We're outside the mall. It seemed she just ended an important call. She's not a very beautiful woman. I was there to practice my game. So I went near her, very near she kind of freaked out. So, I stepped back and apologized. Then I asked her, "Is there a jewelry shop near here?"... "What kind of jewelry should I give to a 19-year-old woman?" She smiled... "How old are you?" She's 18... "Where did you buy that bracelet?" I pointed to her wrist... A little jokes, then somebody called her again. She said, "A moment, Sir". But it will make me look like a wimp if I wait for her. So, I ejected the scene saying, "I'll see you again". Should I've waited a little?
My vocal tonality was quite soft at that time.

The second woman I approached wasn't far from the first woman in terms of looks. She gave me a neutral reaction. I made the same indirect opener ("Is there a jewelry shop near here?"). Then I found it hard to switch to showing intent/interest. Besides, I'm not attracted to her. I ejected from her fast.

But the third woman was a bit attractive. She's got a nice body. She seemed alone, looking for someone. I walked past her and then a meter away, I said, "Excuse me!" Her face had no reaction whatsoever. I did a situational opener, "I just got curious, are you a dancer?" Same vocal tonality as my previous 2 approaches.
ME: I have a friend who's a dancer. She's got the same body as yours.
HER: Yeah, [I'm a dancer.] (Then she looked at her phone.)
ME: What do you dance?
HER: Hip hop, like that.
ME: So, why are you dancing? What do you get from dancing?
HER: I feel happy...
ME: Aside from dancing, what other hobbies do you have? (I noticed she's not giving me lasting eye contact.)
HER: Wait a moment. (She smiled secretly, but I saw it.)
Then, she turned away.
Two women have already told me this same statement, "Wait a moment". And I didn't know what to do next. If indeed I waited for a couple of minutes, that's not good to see. I ejected the scene.
P***** told me, "'Wait a moment' is one excuse women use to get rid of you."
Phil said, "First, you don't change topic that fast. Connect with the woman! Second, you should've used this opener, 'Excuse me! You know what? This is random. I noticed you and got curious. Are you a dancer?' And that's the third point, you're doing something weird, and you don't want the woman to see you as weird, so say it first, 'I know this is random/weird'. Finally, if a woman shows you signs of disinterest, call her attention, neg her or playfully tease her with a strong frame."

P*****, my wingman, eventually came. We moved to another mall. He saw a lone woman, which he finds attractive, walking. He told me to approach her. I did... but the distance was too close she just ignored me.

When we went inside the mall, I saw the same women P***** and I approached last week, most of them are shop employees. Through their glances, I knew they could still recognize us. Moreover, it's not easy to approach people without being noticed because the walk spaces were too narrow. I had an approach anxiety.
I approached an ugly woman outside the mall. She's a nanny, waiting for a relative. We had a small talk. We laughed together, gave high 5s, shook hands (I noticed her hold was too weak). I ejected the scene.
P***** said, "Forget that approach anxiety!"

I tried to approach a cute hired gun in front of a musical instruments shop. She looked haggard, and it seemed she knew what I was about to do. When I came near her, a big tall guy suddenly stood beside her. Then I did an indirect opener, and I ejected the scene.

My wingman told me to approach again a woman he'd approached earlier. I went near that woman—but too near! I became self-conscious after I noticed that the sales clerks who were talking to us earlier were surrounding us. Also, the spot was very close to the security guards. I said, "Hi, you're cute..." The distance between us was very near. She ignored me.

I also approached a cute staff inside a department store. "Excuse me! You look familiar. Did you work at ABC Fastfood before?" I was serious. She really looked like one of my co-workers way back in my college days. But this one's obviously younger.
HER: What branch?
ME: Branch X.
HER: Yeah, I worked there 2014-2015.
ME: If that's 2014-2015, you're not the person I'm talking about...
I ejected the scene.
P***** said, "You leaned in too much. Keep your chest comfortably out. Also, don't put your hand on your waist."

P*****, my wingman, tried to game a woman standing at a jewelry stall. I noticed that the jewelry stall's sales clerk looked nice as well. I approached her with this opener, "What do you think is my friend doing?" We talked a little. Some fluff. "So, you're just 18?" I asked after she told me that she stopped her studies to work.
HER: No, I'm 20. (She's smiling. It felt good to talk to her.)
ME: Let me guess, are you studying accountancy? How about teaching?
HER: You looked like a photographer. (She also played the guessing game with me.)
We continued talking. I was intentionally parroting her body language. It's effective. The women respond better if you mirror their body language.
P***** came to us with his set. They were laughing. Before we left the girls, I gave my phone to her, but she refused to put her number there. She has a boyfriend. I did not insist. High 5. Shook hands (her hold was also weak). Eject.

Finally, while P***** and I were discussing the results of our game, some college student passed by us. I called her attention, "Excuse me! You're cute. I'd like to meet you." She smiled, but I didn't notice it. "I'm in a hurry," she said meekly.
P***** pushed me to her, saying loudly, "Go near her!"
He told me later, "You should've ignored that shit. That's a token resistance, bro!" He must have lots of reference points to notice such subtleties. I still can't see it easily.