09-08-2011, 02:07 AM
(09-07-2011, 05:12 PM)mat422 Wrote:(09-07-2011, 12:29 PM)Ryan Wrote: Even if it's not 100% 'permanent' what is the problem with listening to the subliminal for the rest of your life?
Ryan
It's mostly the fear factor for me. My progress from alpha male was really good, but I'm always worried about slipping back into my old self. Also I just always wonder why I am the way I am and why others don't have these issues. It's a little frustrating when you feel like you were short changed and others don't have to deal with the same issues. But that being said I'm grateful for the subliminals and they helped me make a lot of change I could never do on my own. I'm also thinking that I've got some "old me" left that's resisting change in a number of ways. One of which is the constant belief that subliminals aren't real change, but I know it's a lie.
If you want to know more about the origins that served for your initial belief system, I recommend reading about dysfunctional families, emotional incest, toxic shame and guilt ('Healing The Shame That Binds You' by John Bradshaw and 'The Emotional Incest Syndrome' by Patricia Love) or just go see a therapist about it. The main cause is pretty much that you were there for your parents (to fulfill their own unfulfilled needs), while it should've been the other way around, which in the process denied yourself to allow yourself to feel safe enough to be the child, and the person that you really are.
I'm struggling with the same beliefs as you, that from time to time I think that the subliminals won't stick and that I'm living a pipe dream. I think my biggest issue with it is that I think I don't have enough experience to cultivate the traits caused by AM and having too much fear and anxiety to put myself out there (I've currently started using EFT to focus more on those characteristics), and not having enough connections to have the program sink into. Overall I'm a more calm and reserved person when dealing with people and myself, but when **** really hits the fan it's very easy for me to regress back to my old habits, and this is making me doubt myself and the program. But this is expecting everything to be perfect immediately. I'm only at the start of stage 3 so I hope I will change my tune about this in time. Perhaps I'm simply wanting too much, too soon.
I also harbored a lot of anger and frustration around the thought of "Why me? Why do I have to deal with these stupid limitations and issues while other people can go out there without any worry or guilt or remorse" but these thoughts only keep you stuck, and make you only feel like a victim. I started practicing on dealing with certain thoughts like these (and using the same principle over and over, same way I used to combat my smoking habits), that whenever such a thought shows it triggers my practiced thought that uses a more practical and positive approach to it. It takes some time to have a good anchor, but it's better to stop thoughts like these instead of feeling overwhelmed by them.
