CHAOSVRGN (DMSI v2.5)

[Zeroxmachina]

Something people seem to forget though, being outwardly alpha or aggressive is actually more of a defense mechanism that generally serves as a device to impress/intimidate other men,but is almost always a cover for insecurity. Simply being aware/sure of yourself internally without the need to 'flex' or seek outside validation from anyone, woman or man, is what I believe really gives a man a presence that makes women (not girls) go crazy.

Western masculinity and it's extreme yang principles are imbalanced.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbzeqFcpGQQ

Look at Joon, the last guy at 2:39, I believe this is what a more balanced human being that's in touch with the feminine aspect is like. I'm certain that he's not outwardly someone that feels the need to 'act tough', nor is he 'beta' in any sense. But it's undeniable Joon is one of those guys that women flock too.

I guess what i'm saying is, you're strong and you know it. People will test you because they aren't confident of their own strength, it makes no sense for you to play into the insecurity game with them.

This sounds like feminist propaganda. :: Kanye shrug. ::

How many times have you ever respected a man that didn't intimidate you in some way? Like Sarge said, there are universal natural laws that guide everything, and we have a tendency to trick ourselves into thinking we're above them.

No one respects the weak. In a boxing class, allowing yourself to become the butt of everyone jokes because they hit you hard and you take it in of "zen" isn't going to garner you ANY respect.

You know what did garner some respect? When that kid hit me, giggled and I threw the prettiest overhand right ever and laid his ass out. And then, after that, this other kid decided he wanted to spar and then had his friend RECORD the fight? Why? Because he thought he could beat me and decided he was going to have something to put on YouTube and brag to the bitches.

Guess what?

He got an overhand right too, although I pulled the punch significantly because he was controlling his contact -- PLUS, he's a genuinely cool dude and a good fighter. On the flipside, you're going to learn from experience or from force that you're not going to push me around--

I mean, seriously, what the **** is wrong with you guys? Are you so brainwashed into being "zen" that you'll ALLOW yourself to be bullied by everyone, lose all respect from everyone (and yourself) and say, we'll it's A-OK, because I got my pillow made of zen, tears and impotent rage to comfort me at night!!!!

It seems like you completely misunderstood what I said. You are mis-associating being a balanced human being (equally feminine and masculine in balance as the situation demands it) with being passive, which is overly feminine, and then referring to that as 'Zen'. As I said, real strength doesn't need to demonstrate itself on a whim because it knows itself. Bullies are some of the most insecure people on planet earth when you get to know them.

Did the bullies in school get girls, yes. Because girls generally mistake that for 'alpha' and these are the same women that can't differentiate between genuine dominant males, and abusive assholes that will treat them like shit and possibly slap em around. That doesn't mean as a grown man you should be following that concept, when you obviously have developed yourself to the point where you have way more to offer than some pseudo-masculinity shield you wear to protect your inner child from getting hurt.

Men deny the feminine aspect of themselves because they fear other men will think of them as weak. But what kinda 'alpha' cares what other men think?
Here's another example of a man that's actually balanced, and thus is able to express emotion/passion without fear in a way that touches people. This is not weak.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uSgybW-y5s

Just be yourself.