Spiral's Sex Magnet 2011 journal

[Shannon]

...It's the man's job to make the first move as in showing interest and showing you like her...BUT. It's the woman's job to make the first move towards sex. And I like that because as a man we can seduce, we can be the prize but give them satisfaction towards their needs as in making them feel comfortable, secure, making them feel cared for and safe and happy but having that sense of control that "I don't need sex from you" really changes things...

Wha? Her job to make the first move towards sex? What planet are you on, buddy? It's your job to do everything. Initiate conversation, show yourself "worthy", initiate kissing, and sex, and everything else. And she wants you to take responsibility for it, too! If it happens, it's on you. She doesn't want to have anyone thinking she's a __________ or a _______. So it has to be "all your fault" a lot of the time, or it won't happen. Thank our society for that.

If you want sex, it's YOUR job as a man to make it happen. All of it. Every step. If she chimes in to help, great! But never expect her to, and don't wait for her to either. Otherwise you'll spend a lot of time with Rosy Palmer.

Now that's not to say that you shouldn't encourage her to ask for it, or initiate it, but it is to say that most women won't, and those who will are hard to find. It also means that if you want her to, you typically need to get her to. In other words... it's still your responsibility, even if you make her do some of the work too. Getting her to initiate or ask for it, is going to require work on your part 96% of the time. So really, you initiated, even when you make it look like she did.