08-20-2011, 05:43 PM
(08-20-2011, 04:32 PM)Spiral Wrote: Hmm hmm hmm.. next time she's that close to you say something like "You need to stop thinking about me. You'll get us in trouble." Say it playfully. This will turn her on and I'm sure she's well aware of the situation and she may try to get you alone or whatever. whether it's in your cubicle (I don't know what your office is like) or in the lunchroom or closetBUT either way it's not like anything has to happen. But when she does give you that opportunity and it's clearly you and her and you feel comfortable with the situation (no one is watching) then either ask her out... or make out with her. Whatever floats your boat.
"It's wierd too because I just had these feelings of disgust and I'm not going to get where I wanna go etc. "
Ryan, don't worry I'm in the same exact situation and sometimes I feel so down on myself about this because I feel like I'm a failure and will remain a failure for the rest of my life. It's hard to deal with but it comes and goes, some days are worse than others. I think we are about in the eye of the storm.
I like your banter remark, it's a great way to show you are the prize and being playful. Listening to that tape last night I told you about made a good point. It's the man's job to make the first move as in showing interest and showing you like her...BUT. It's the woman's job to make the first move towards sex. And I like that because as a man we can seduce, we can be the prize but give them satisfaction towards their needs as in making them feel comfortable, secure, making them feel cared for and safe and happy but having that sense of control that "I don't need sex from you" really changes things. When you can get up and leave without needing anything from her, it drives her crazy...Being playful and showing interest but at the same time not acting upon trying to make things happen (just letting them come) is going to absolutely make a woman want to f- you as soon as you walk out the door.
