09-27-2016, 07:54 PM
Thanks for the support guys. I got sick and haven't seen either of them. We'll see who's available when I'm better. Had very strong resistance about going to see the hotter one, but I had every intention of going.
There's a girl at the gym who I've wanted to approach for a while. I think she's new. Must be eastern european — my favourite. Kind of tall but I'm taller. Long legs and a tiny waist that blooms into an epic ass. She's usually chatting with this guy who's smaller and less good looking than me. I won't go solely on appearances because I've seen him training/teasing a couple of sexy/slutty girls and he seemed comfortable around them. Hell, he's talking to her which is more than I'm doing. Hard to gauge the nature of their relationship. I've actually taken several opportunities to place myself near guys who are talking to hot girls and muting my music just to hear what they're talking about since conversation can be a roadblock for me. Mostly what I've heard is just people shooting the shit. Not surprising. Based on body language I don't think this dude is fucking her.
Anyways I've caught this girl looking over at me on more than one occasion. But the looks are subtle, and on more than one occasion I've found myself questioning whether or not the interest is there. But as a man I need to a) assume attraction - because I'm a prize, and doing so might even ignite attraction that's weak or non-existent and b) treat any IOIs, no matter how subtle, as if the girl is standing there with a megaphone pointed at me yelling HEY I LIKE YOU, COME TALK TO ME.
One of the hardest things to change about my thinking has been to stop trying to understand women from a man's mind. Specifically, with IOIs and attraction. As I said, her glancing over a few times and maybe situating herself near you for reasons that are at best, ambiguous, are things that are just as 'loud' and obvious in her mind as you going up to her and telling her she's cute. And in terms of attraction, I've spent more time than I care to quantify getting down on myself because I don't perceive myself as being proportionately attractive to a girl that I'm interested in. And again, that's me assuming a man's thinking of a woman. Our decisions about attractiveness are based almost solely on looks. Women care about looks too but they also care about traits such as confidence, social aptitude/status, and yes power/wealth [or perceived ability to achieve such]. At the very least, you're not being fair to yourself if you think you can pretend to know what her taste in men is. And like I mentioned with assuming attraction, you can to a certain extent influence her taste if she buys into the self-value that you radiate.
That said, the last time I was at the gym this girl came over to a machine almost right across from me and I could feel her eyes on me. Actually a trainer who looks at me with lust was on the ground floor looking up at me. I was a lust sandwich lol. I felt a little uncomfortable with the attention and I tried not to show it by becoming more focused on training intensely. I noticed myself struggling to stay still and wanting to wander away and show my back to her. Tried to oppose these instincts. At one point I was sitting and looking ahead. She finished her set and walked right into my field of view. She stopped, then paced a little, but she stayed in my field of view. I sat motionless, staring at a point just past her, resisting a tiny smirk on my face. Perfect opportunity. Blown. I did nothing. Finished my last set of pushups and walked away to another part of the gym.
I have to say the confidence, and entitlement, and authority that I felt during Stage 5 just hasn't been there since. Assuming I should still feel these things in Stage 6, what's changed is that towards the end of Stage 5 I moved from the 2h masked, 8h us model to almost all us and my 10 hour / day goal dwindled to an average of 8h which is why I have so many make up hours for this stage.
There's a girl at the gym who I've wanted to approach for a while. I think she's new. Must be eastern european — my favourite. Kind of tall but I'm taller. Long legs and a tiny waist that blooms into an epic ass. She's usually chatting with this guy who's smaller and less good looking than me. I won't go solely on appearances because I've seen him training/teasing a couple of sexy/slutty girls and he seemed comfortable around them. Hell, he's talking to her which is more than I'm doing. Hard to gauge the nature of their relationship. I've actually taken several opportunities to place myself near guys who are talking to hot girls and muting my music just to hear what they're talking about since conversation can be a roadblock for me. Mostly what I've heard is just people shooting the shit. Not surprising. Based on body language I don't think this dude is fucking her.
Anyways I've caught this girl looking over at me on more than one occasion. But the looks are subtle, and on more than one occasion I've found myself questioning whether or not the interest is there. But as a man I need to a) assume attraction - because I'm a prize, and doing so might even ignite attraction that's weak or non-existent and b) treat any IOIs, no matter how subtle, as if the girl is standing there with a megaphone pointed at me yelling HEY I LIKE YOU, COME TALK TO ME.
One of the hardest things to change about my thinking has been to stop trying to understand women from a man's mind. Specifically, with IOIs and attraction. As I said, her glancing over a few times and maybe situating herself near you for reasons that are at best, ambiguous, are things that are just as 'loud' and obvious in her mind as you going up to her and telling her she's cute. And in terms of attraction, I've spent more time than I care to quantify getting down on myself because I don't perceive myself as being proportionately attractive to a girl that I'm interested in. And again, that's me assuming a man's thinking of a woman. Our decisions about attractiveness are based almost solely on looks. Women care about looks too but they also care about traits such as confidence, social aptitude/status, and yes power/wealth [or perceived ability to achieve such]. At the very least, you're not being fair to yourself if you think you can pretend to know what her taste in men is. And like I mentioned with assuming attraction, you can to a certain extent influence her taste if she buys into the self-value that you radiate.
That said, the last time I was at the gym this girl came over to a machine almost right across from me and I could feel her eyes on me. Actually a trainer who looks at me with lust was on the ground floor looking up at me. I was a lust sandwich lol. I felt a little uncomfortable with the attention and I tried not to show it by becoming more focused on training intensely. I noticed myself struggling to stay still and wanting to wander away and show my back to her. Tried to oppose these instincts. At one point I was sitting and looking ahead. She finished her set and walked right into my field of view. She stopped, then paced a little, but she stayed in my field of view. I sat motionless, staring at a point just past her, resisting a tiny smirk on my face. Perfect opportunity. Blown. I did nothing. Finished my last set of pushups and walked away to another part of the gym.
I have to say the confidence, and entitlement, and authority that I felt during Stage 5 just hasn't been there since. Assuming I should still feel these things in Stage 6, what's changed is that towards the end of Stage 5 I moved from the 2h masked, 8h us model to almost all us and my 10 hour / day goal dwindled to an average of 8h which is why I have so many make up hours for this stage.
Under heaven all can see beauty as beauty only because there is ugliness.
All can know good as good only because there is evil.
All can know good as good only because there is evil.
