Modern Love / MSI 2.4

[Shannon]

One advice I like is about the importance of remembering and calling people by their names, because that's what people want to hear, and they feel appreciated that they are remembered. I am trying to do so for anyone I meet that I might see again. Another plus is that I tell people about this when meeting them and it gives me an interesting and non-cliché topic to launch a conversation from.

I once had a security job. I made it a point to say, "Hello," to everyone walking in the door using their names (as I learned them). I eventually had so many people talking to me at my desk on their break that I actually got into trouble! Anyway, yes, remembering and using someone's name makes them feel incredibly valued.

This is why whenever I go out to eat, I make a point to always know the first name of my server, and use it. Male or female, it results in better service and it usually also results in a great opportunity for networking, even if there's no attraction.

In fact I make friends with all the servers and bartenders, and that has really opened a lot of doors for me. It's not always a direct course to sex.