09-19-2016, 05:11 PM
I totally get what you're going thru because I'm exactly the same when it comes to these things. First there is setting the date, but my bigger fear is when going to the date. I'd be scared shitless, to the point of bailing on the date at points.
Let me tell you this tho. I've been on really shitty ass boring as hell dates and all the girls wanted was to get invited over. Chances are, they didn't even care about the date. I know it's scary as hell, but you gotta do it if you wanna set a good example for yourself in the future. You'll probably regret too and feel sad about it for weeks to come if you don't take action soon.
With the Tinder girl, sounds like it should be pretty simple, as she seems into you already. It would be a nice date too. With the server, probably once you see her, you'd automatically put yourself in the same state as before and nail it.
Then again, I'm not really experienced in this, and I'm sure some of the more experienced guys will be commenting on this. I guess the main point you can take from this is that the fear you're feeling is totally normal and you're not the only one that gets it!
Let me tell you this tho. I've been on really shitty ass boring as hell dates and all the girls wanted was to get invited over. Chances are, they didn't even care about the date. I know it's scary as hell, but you gotta do it if you wanna set a good example for yourself in the future. You'll probably regret too and feel sad about it for weeks to come if you don't take action soon.
With the Tinder girl, sounds like it should be pretty simple, as she seems into you already. It would be a nice date too. With the server, probably once you see her, you'd automatically put yourself in the same state as before and nail it.
Then again, I'm not really experienced in this, and I'm sure some of the more experienced guys will be commenting on this. I guess the main point you can take from this is that the fear you're feeling is totally normal and you're not the only one that gets it!
INFJ
