08-24-2016, 07:38 PM
Shannon,
Thank you for such a blunt answer. I've wondered about such factors as familiarity, trust, "she has no context to understand why she feels like this", comfort, disinhibition, "imagined social validation for acting on her feelings with the user", "her feelings fitting into a socially approved agenda", "possibility of a future", attachment,... but I don't know if I have any thing definitive and specific, just concepts.
With women, it seems they can always think of a way that it's not "just right" so they can avoid sex or attachment. The ordinary guy is nothing special so he's disqualified. The awesome guy is too awesome and he might have too many options so he's disqualified. The prince charming is too perfect. The guy next door isn't perfect enough. Etc. So it's not about who the guy is, I think it's more the process of women needing to disqualify so they feel in control or empowered, or like if they have sex or feel attached then they lose something or give up their only bargaining chip. I don't know how to best phrase it.
Thank you for such a blunt answer. I've wondered about such factors as familiarity, trust, "she has no context to understand why she feels like this", comfort, disinhibition, "imagined social validation for acting on her feelings with the user", "her feelings fitting into a socially approved agenda", "possibility of a future", attachment,... but I don't know if I have any thing definitive and specific, just concepts.
With women, it seems they can always think of a way that it's not "just right" so they can avoid sex or attachment. The ordinary guy is nothing special so he's disqualified. The awesome guy is too awesome and he might have too many options so he's disqualified. The prince charming is too perfect. The guy next door isn't perfect enough. Etc. So it's not about who the guy is, I think it's more the process of women needing to disqualify so they feel in control or empowered, or like if they have sex or feel attached then they lose something or give up their only bargaining chip. I don't know how to best phrase it.
