(08-21-2016, 06:08 PM)Shannon Wrote: Why on earth would you take her interest and blow it like that? You basically told her she's not what or who you want, when she put herself out to express her interest. You could have asked her outside to talk, at least...
Shannon, you are right and I agree that under normal circumstances this would be a wasted opportunity. However, I am married and I am not planning to cheat on my wife. Second, I am attending a really conservative church, and if someone who knows my wife saw me speaking to her they would have spilled the beans. The divorce laws in this country financially and emotionally emasculates men.
Believe me. if I was unattached, I would have escalated and see how far I could have take it. From her behavior, She was definitely ready for the pickin.
You are probably wondering why would I be using the sub if I am married? Well, I thought it would breathe life into a relationship that has gone stale over the years (but that is another story for another time.). For disclosure, the wife is unaware of the sub and is not exposed to it. I believe that a little competition can light a fire in our relationship. I think she's been noticing as she's taking better care of herself (she's lost weight) and took up running. Shannon, I hope this brings clarity into my responses to her behavior and I sincerely hope that you understand.
When the sub first came out, I was intrigued and wanted to see for myself and experienced its effects. I am pleased to report that the sub is working. I don't think you are that far from the end goal, which would be having a woman initiate sex with the user. Keep doing what you are doing, you will get there and please don't ditch the public testing as I believe you can get valuable feedback from the community. Remember, the larger the sample size, the greater the confidence in the results if there is an observable effect.
Now this is not a personal attack, but an encouragement to persevere. For those who are doubting (i.e. Catman, Ricardo) about the effectiveness of the sub, the IOI are real and the behaviors observed seem to indicate a level of attraction. Think about this. why would a woman get closer to you in this kind of setting (Church) if she wasn't interested. To be frank I've never experienced so much attention from the opposite sex in my whole life. I love it.
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