08-03-2016, 12:06 PM
(08-03-2016, 11:42 AM)chaosvrgn Wrote: Playful jerks, bro. Playful. Your "jerkiness" has to come from a place of strength, that you're actively refusing to operate within her psychological frame. Last night, my date kept trying to get me to admit that I could be a "gentleman." I just looked at her playfully and said, "there's absolutely nothing gentle about me." She rolled her eyes and huffed and puffed, said something along the lines of: "You think you're all that, don't you?" But the entire time, she was smiling from ear-to-ear and her eyes have that, "I want you to f*ck my brains out" gloss to it.
Later that night, she couldn't keep her hands off me, and we were 5 minutes away from banging on a wet, abandoned roof (just to show you how bad she wanted it) before I had to bail.
Point taken.
(08-03-2016, 11:42 AM)chaosvrgn Wrote: Playful jerk. It means "I'm dismissing your faux-complaints and teases, as if you were my little sister." It's not screaming, "B*TCH I AIN'T NO GENTLEMAN!!!!!" And then proceeding to slap the sh*t out of her.
This made me lol. Something about extremes that are hilarious.
(08-03-2016, 11:42 AM)chaosvrgn Wrote: Societal conditioning has polarized masculinity into guys that feel like they have to be complete assholes, or manginas that give in to women's requests. The moderates have been wiped out, and yes, if a woman has to choose, she'll most likely go more for the jerk than the mangina. Be the moderate. There's no sense in hanging out in the extremes.
And yes, I do agree with you that everyone should challenge their internal beliefs and question the status quo. I think you need to follow your own advice, though. You're doing exactly what you're accusing everyone else of -- reaching a conclusion and refusing to challenge it, as if you already have all the answers. It almost seems like your questions are designed to prove yourself right, not to challenge what you think you know about the world.
I know everything, what do I need to challenge?
Look man, do you know how many books I'm reading that directly oppose beliefs I've had about socializing a year ago? I count 2 right beside me. That's not counting the others that are in my room and my car. It's also not counting the others I've read before now.
I don't think I'm the stubborn one here. On the contrary, my opinions have come from direct experience derived from specifically challenging things.
