Overcoming Approach Anxiety with a Positive Attitude

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I think everything seems much easier for us if we just go with the flow. If you start to do something that begins to feel off then don't do it. If you are about to do something but second guess your self, don't do it. Relax and breathe and then continue on with something else. I know this is pretty general but something happened while I was in the grocery store the other day.

I locked eyes with one of the cashiers that I had seen before and had shown blatant attraction right off the bat but I havn't gotten checked out by her in a while. I was going to find a line so I could pay for my food and we locked eyes mutually as people were already walking in front of me in line and I continued to walk by and we continued to hold eye contact for a good 2-3 seconds. I noticed the next line was much shorter and I was about to go into that line but I just wanted to go to the other line to see the chick. I don't know what I should have expected but what I should have done is either continue making eye contact and stay in her line when I first began searching for a line or continue moving into the next line since I was naturally moving that way. I had interrupted my natural flow of movement and that had affected her right off the bat because as soon as I got back to her line she never once made eye contact with me and rushed through checking my stuff out. Also though she could have been having a bad day or whatever but maybe she sensed some neediness because that's obviously what I had projected once I broke my flow. I don't really give a !@$# about it but I need to not give more a @#$@ and just stay on the correct path.

This seems to be very very important. If it doesn't work out the first time take the scenic rout and do something different but smoother.