(07-24-2016, 01:09 PM)Banksy Wrote: You can't impregnate these h*** man. Listen man, I feel sorry for you, this is really just unfortunate. In most cases though, you won't see a woman going out like that. I get it though, men are rarely seen as victims in these situations (unless they're athletes sometimes), but that doesn't mean you should have a victim mentality, at least you made it out.
I'm gonna say this, then I'm gonna leave it alone because I've played my part in derailing Shannon's journal.
This woman did not come across as "low quality." She was very popular, VERY ACTIVE in the community -- had just come back from a missions trip to Uganda. Worked at one of the largest, most reputable hospitals in the state -- let's put it this way, this hospital is referenced in movies a lot. She told me her dream was to be a loving housewife to a strong, dedicated man. I thought I hit the jackpot and everything was "turning around." Was finally making close to six figures, had a lot of prestige in my industry. Her father adored me, took me on lavish vacations with the family.
... then she got pregnant and got that ring on her finger. And boy, how quickly things changed.
But I don't see myself as a victim. As the great Morpheus said: "What happened, happened and could not happen any other way. We are still alive." I NEEDED this to happen, because the experiences of my 20's caused me to find AM6 and break free of those old patterns. My life is heading in SUCH a positive, powerful direction that I don't look at the past with sadness. I try to take those lessons learned and warn others about the insights they may miss. And that's why I got so fired up -- I simply can't sit by and let myths pervade when I know they aren't true.
But, I recognize that you have to live your own life. Follow your own path. All I can do is tell you what happened to me, let you know that I'm not a unique case, nor was I a "loser." Good job. Good family. Good money. Still crashed and burned.
So, believe what you will. I urge you, however to research your state / province / country / protectorate's child support laws and ask around.
I'll leave you with this thought: Where I grew up, the criminal court building is a beautiful, lavish building with statues of lions and gargoyles and sh*t. The family court building (where they hold child support and alimony and divorce cases) is a monolith. Surrounded by guards. Why? Because so many men's lives are destroyed there that they're terrified of retribution.
