06-26-2011, 12:45 PM
The best way I have found to kill the nice guy factor is to have a little dangerousness thrown in. I have learned how to express that with glances, words and actions. But there isn't much that says to a woman "I am not Mister Nice Guy" than a gaze that tells her "You are the unquestionable subject of my sexual interest and desire" .
Naturally, that must be balanced, as leering at women is not how to get anywhere either, unless she's drunk and horny, and you'll probably regret that later for one reason or another.
You have to communicate to her that you are the hunter and she is the hunted, and you are interested. But don't make her feel "stalked" in the negative sense of the word. Believe it or not, you can make a woman feel "stalked" in a positive way. In a situation where you are the hunter and you are stalking her as your sexual prey, and you do it right - she'll be drawn to you like a moth to a flame. That obviousness of intent, coupled with complete lack of apology for it, mixed with obvious self control and pre-meditation, as well as a suitably appropriate conversation which expresses these things while demonstrating that you do have self control, that you are the skilled, smooth and experienced man who knows what he's doing and has every intention of getting who and what he wants, without being creepy, pushy, or overly threatening... women just can't resist that - when it is properly executed.
Of course, that's not much help if you're not experienced, but it will hopefully give you some idea what to aim for as you gain experience. I have found that it requires a certain type of woman and a certain degree of initial comfort in most cases, but if you get good at eye seduction, I have seen it happen that a woman can be seduced thusly across a bar without any words at all.
Harmless guys go in the friend zone. Nice guys are harmless. Charmers are nice guys unless they are adding in a little bit of sexual intent. This makes them a slight threat, and that makes them exciting, without being too threatening. She usually needs a very fine line, but once you figure out how to achieve that fine line, it'll quickly become second nature to seduce women with it.
Naturally, that must be balanced, as leering at women is not how to get anywhere either, unless she's drunk and horny, and you'll probably regret that later for one reason or another.
You have to communicate to her that you are the hunter and she is the hunted, and you are interested. But don't make her feel "stalked" in the negative sense of the word. Believe it or not, you can make a woman feel "stalked" in a positive way. In a situation where you are the hunter and you are stalking her as your sexual prey, and you do it right - she'll be drawn to you like a moth to a flame. That obviousness of intent, coupled with complete lack of apology for it, mixed with obvious self control and pre-meditation, as well as a suitably appropriate conversation which expresses these things while demonstrating that you do have self control, that you are the skilled, smooth and experienced man who knows what he's doing and has every intention of getting who and what he wants, without being creepy, pushy, or overly threatening... women just can't resist that - when it is properly executed.
Of course, that's not much help if you're not experienced, but it will hopefully give you some idea what to aim for as you gain experience. I have found that it requires a certain type of woman and a certain degree of initial comfort in most cases, but if you get good at eye seduction, I have seen it happen that a woman can be seduced thusly across a bar without any words at all.
Harmless guys go in the friend zone. Nice guys are harmless. Charmers are nice guys unless they are adding in a little bit of sexual intent. This makes them a slight threat, and that makes them exciting, without being too threatening. She usually needs a very fine line, but once you figure out how to achieve that fine line, it'll quickly become second nature to seduce women with it.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
