07-11-2016, 02:22 PM
(07-11-2016, 01:49 PM)ALI6NMENT Wrote: Yeah I can understand that. I am who I am in any given moment.
With me though, I can "see" all these things, I am talking about.
I can understand I am who I choose to be.
I suppose what I am actually getting at is the choicesI have been making is not the person I want to be. So, if I am doing things I don't want to do (for whatever reason) I am not being genuine to myself.
It might help to think about why you do not want to be the person you think you are being when doing certain things.
(07-11-2016, 01:49 PM)ALI6NMENT Wrote: Muscles is a big one for me, I only strength train because it makes me feel good, which makes me feel more attractive, which makes me feel more confident which attracts certain type of women.
If I decided one-day I don't want to do this no more then what the women found attractive about me in the first place won't be there, so what's the point doing it in the first place.
I want to be my pure basic self and be OK with being that, then no matter where I go or what I do, I always have my self as I am. I won't need a gym, I won't need to eat enough, I won't feel less confident or less attractive, because I am attractive, confident as I am, my pure basic self.
I want to cut out all the added things, that can easily be lost. If I am confident, attractive and OK as I am, I will never need anything outside of myself and to me that is my genuine self.
But you'll still need food.
Sounds like you're on the path to enlightenment. Have you looked into Buddhism? I recommend some Alan Watts lectures, you can find them easily on youtube.
You're right that the type of women you attract will change once you change. This is because we live in a world of forms. Like attracts like, and form fits with form. If you want a certain type of girl, you must be a certain form. If you want to break that form, then you will attract a different kind, or none at all (Don't think there are many monk playboys lol).
I've been trying to find a way to help people understand, but I think it has to be experienced.
Basically: you already ARE yourself, no matter what you do, and that will never change, whether you realize it or not, it is true.
Enlightenment is like an old man who forgot that he was wearing his glasses on the top of his head, and searches the room looking for them.
But other than that, I can relate to your dilemma. What has helped me is simply realizing that "all the world's a stage" as shakespeare says, and that, no matter what, I'm always "me".
