Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Shannon]

Only it does do harm. Just because you're not experienced enough to see it, doesn't mean it does no harm. Anger and hate are, let me repeat this for the 30 millionth time, SELF DESTRUCTIVE. The wise man therefore seeks to extinguish and outgrow them within himself.

And, they are damaging for those people you project them at and express them to.

And, they perpetuate the cycle of negativity that made the woman attracted to them in the first place. In other words, you are helping her stay damaged, if not increasing her emotional damage.

This is all debatable.

First of all, I'm not a very angry guy. I believe I've said before that I'm TRYING to get in touch with my anger because women respond well to me when I'm like that. It has been my recent discovery that women ONLY respond to me when I'm angry or hateful.

If there ARE women who respond to me when I'm not angry, hateful, or spiteful I've yet to find one. So I just can't believe you on that. The good news on that is: until I figure out how to embrace my anger, I'm a walking zen machine, so if women DO respond to that, we'll see won't we.

Second, any woman who falls for me when I'm angry will fall for another guy who is angry. The only thing I'm doing by removing myself from the situation is, well, removing myself from the situation. I might as well cut my dick off and go monk if that's all it leads to.

And, such damaged women, again, cannot have normal healthy relationships. Meaning you will only get sex and drama, and believe me, the sex isn't worth the drama.

I'm confident in Blackdragon's principles to manage drama.

You are just like Dave. Well, Dave... you're going to do this your way. Just remember, down the road a ways, when you do eventually get it, what I said. And then think back and realize how much of your life you could have spent doing something other than learning what I already told you, because you had to do it your way instead of listen to someone who's been there and done that. Or something other than ***** drama queens who made you even more miserable because they were damaged. God help you if you have a kid with one of 'em... my friend Shawn - also just like you - can tell you about that one.

Love the scare tactics.

Look, it's simple: do what works. That's my philosophy. If what you say works, well, then it does. But I've yet to see any evidence of it. Sorry, but if the universe really works that way, it would be working that way, wouldn't it?

I'm not using scare tactics. I'm telling you what I wish someone had told me when I was in your shoes. And what I wish Dave and Shawn and all the rest had listened to when I tried to help them. I don't need to help you, you're welcome to all the suffering you want. I just don't like seeing people suffer needlessly.

You do what you think works. But your level of understanding is making things seem to be different than they actually are.

You won't believe me for a long time, if you follow in the footsteps of Dave and Shawn. And that's exactly what you're doing, but hey. Some people need to learn the hard way.