06-15-2016, 06:15 PM
I just got back from doing an experiment with AOSI. The second one in three days. Both times, I ran it for ~20 minutes before going to have something to eat. Both times I got an almost identical response.
The first time, my server was a heavyset chick who I know is attracted to me, but she is avoidant regarding me because she knows that a smaller and more dominant server is definitely interested in me. That day she served me, forgot my silverware, and gave me significantly more than what they are supposed to put on a large antipasto salad there. She then disappeared, and I had to hunt down silverware for myself.
These three things have never happened before.
By the end of my 45 minutes there, and it took all of that to finish eating so much food, she was giving a definite vibe of "I feel close to you, and I want to be intimate with you, but I can't."
Today I went to Ruby Tuesday's and upon walking in, I was immediately and very enthusiatically greeted by one of my favorite bartendresses. Unusually so. She was genuinely happy to see me, whereas usually it's a polite hello, how are you, and then she's back to work. This time it was, "Oh boy, it's Shannon! Yay!!!"
Within seconds of sitting down, the woman sitting to my right started a conversation with me. And she wasn't just talking, you could tell this was urgent. She was on me like white on rice. She was in her 50's, and I was starving, so I wasn't really all that interactive. Then I started getting IOIs from a girl who was sitting at a booth to my left, and I mean stares, hair flips, leg wagging, neck presentations followed by neck covers and back and forth like she couldn't make up her mind if she wanted to run or get some. Her friend/sister seemed entirely un-phased the whole time.
The woman sitting to my right made a special point to say goodbye to me when she left in a way that was unnecessary, and reiterated the interest I perceived. The bartendress was in a state that felt to me like we were bonded emotionally, like I was her long term boyfriend or husband. She didn't seem to know how to handle that, since she's married, and consequently she was quiet after the initial greeting, and found excuses to disappear into the kitchen for longer than it takes to melt my butter, the bathroom, the other side of the bar as far from me as possibe, etc. etc.
When she brought me my butter, she said, "I'm sorry, my love, it took longer than it should have."
Now I know that wait staff refer to one another as "dear" and "love" and "my love" when they are comfortable with and like someone, but this did not strike me as an "I like you" sort of response. This was more like a woman talking to her dearly beloved.
Her whole demeanor was very much as if she was feeling things for me that she could not allow herself to feel, because she was married, and yet she was feeling intimate with me anyway. This is the type of woman, by the way, who would never have sex with a man she was not at least considering for a relationship. For her, sex is deep intimacy and security. That, I believe, is why she was reacting that way to me.
The effect seemed to fade over 20-30 minutes. But wow. I'm really looking forward to trying V2 after this!
The first time, my server was a heavyset chick who I know is attracted to me, but she is avoidant regarding me because she knows that a smaller and more dominant server is definitely interested in me. That day she served me, forgot my silverware, and gave me significantly more than what they are supposed to put on a large antipasto salad there. She then disappeared, and I had to hunt down silverware for myself.
These three things have never happened before.
By the end of my 45 minutes there, and it took all of that to finish eating so much food, she was giving a definite vibe of "I feel close to you, and I want to be intimate with you, but I can't."
Today I went to Ruby Tuesday's and upon walking in, I was immediately and very enthusiatically greeted by one of my favorite bartendresses. Unusually so. She was genuinely happy to see me, whereas usually it's a polite hello, how are you, and then she's back to work. This time it was, "Oh boy, it's Shannon! Yay!!!"
Within seconds of sitting down, the woman sitting to my right started a conversation with me. And she wasn't just talking, you could tell this was urgent. She was on me like white on rice. She was in her 50's, and I was starving, so I wasn't really all that interactive. Then I started getting IOIs from a girl who was sitting at a booth to my left, and I mean stares, hair flips, leg wagging, neck presentations followed by neck covers and back and forth like she couldn't make up her mind if she wanted to run or get some. Her friend/sister seemed entirely un-phased the whole time.
The woman sitting to my right made a special point to say goodbye to me when she left in a way that was unnecessary, and reiterated the interest I perceived. The bartendress was in a state that felt to me like we were bonded emotionally, like I was her long term boyfriend or husband. She didn't seem to know how to handle that, since she's married, and consequently she was quiet after the initial greeting, and found excuses to disappear into the kitchen for longer than it takes to melt my butter, the bathroom, the other side of the bar as far from me as possibe, etc. etc.
When she brought me my butter, she said, "I'm sorry, my love, it took longer than it should have."
Now I know that wait staff refer to one another as "dear" and "love" and "my love" when they are comfortable with and like someone, but this did not strike me as an "I like you" sort of response. This was more like a woman talking to her dearly beloved.
Her whole demeanor was very much as if she was feeling things for me that she could not allow herself to feel, because she was married, and yet she was feeling intimate with me anyway. This is the type of woman, by the way, who would never have sex with a man she was not at least considering for a relationship. For her, sex is deep intimacy and security. That, I believe, is why she was reacting that way to me.
The effect seemed to fade over 20-30 minutes. But wow. I'm really looking forward to trying V2 after this!
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
