(06-02-2016, 10:54 PM)4Kingdoms Wrote: Not a parent. 50 y/o that takes care of his 71 y/o Mom.
I read your journal(s). Thoroughly enjoyed both of them.
(06-02-2016, 10:54 PM)4Kingdoms Wrote: Just curious if you are going to keep this a secret from him and watch how he changes or if you are going to ask him for permission or just come on strong and say "This is what is going to happen!"
Any and all subliminal that I use I read the product description to my Mom (she's blind from a brain tumor pressing her optic nerve in her 30's) and give her the choice if she wants to listen/participate.
Clearly, she is an adult... your son is 12 y/o.
I agree, your mother has a maturity that a 12-year old doesn't have. He would refuse to eat vegetables and take vitamins if I gave him a choice.
However, I did discuss it (With the onset of puberty last year, I've been discussing a lot of things with him that are "just between us, because the girls don't want to hear this" lol)
When I was talking subliminals over with him, I told him I think it would be good for him, and I wanted him to trust me. But that if, after a month, he hated it, or it was boring, he could turn it off.
The life experience of a young person makes it difficult to explain some things. So, you sometimes have to "break it down Romper Room style" for them to grasp the concept.
I have on previous occasions explained to him the reason why we don't permit him to watch some movies or listen to some music, or go to some websites... every sensation experienced by your five senses is stored and catalogued in a "brain safe" for the rest of your life. So, if you put garbage in, you'll get garbage out.
I just built upon that example, by comparing the conscious mind to the guard that prevents unauthorized entry to the safe. We have to distract him with the sound of waves in order to sneak these ideas past him.
What I did NOT explain to him was WHY I want to "sneak these ideas" in past the guard. It's not reactive... it's proactive. Seed the field with positive ideas and self-image first, rather than having to go back later and dig out negativity.
