Robstar's journal of sexual abundance

[robstar]

Honestly, I don't know if YOU can. These situations I've found generally revolve around, not so much just from personal experience, but knowing tons of girls who do these things to other guys:

1. You doing something that turned her off somehow, neediness etc. So a bit of space is what she is creating. Probably best not to crowd her if this is so, as that will just tend to prove to her that distancing herself was the right choice and will just make her create MORE distance.

2. She met some other guy, and is evaluating him, and backburning-ing you to do so.

3. Some ex has come back around in her life somehow, and is also evaluating him, and is backburning-ing you to do so.

In case 1, best thing to do is distance, also to show your lack of need etc. In the other two, there isn't much you can do, as YOU did nothing wrong. Those are harder to deal with obviously.

I hope things pan out for you, man. You're a great guy that has helped me a lot. You're solid, whether or not she appreciates that.

Thanks man. The only thing is that I think there's actually a number 4, autorejection. If her initial reaction of me was that I had a player vibe, and I'm quite sure it was, I also have a slight reputation in the community that we met. Which would have been fine, because we were just sleeping together, but if she started to get feelings, she may have backed off out of fear. My problem is not knowing if its number 1 or 4. In number 1 case, space is great, in number 4 not so much. I know its not numbers 2 or 3, as I recently spoke to a mutual friend who was adamant that she has not dated or hooked up with anyone. And she doesn't have any serious exes to speak of (she is 20)
What I'm thinking of is writing something like this:
"So I'm sensing by your lack of response and interest in meeting up that this has maybe run its course. I am a bit sad, as there was a point there that I felt we were getting closer, and I'm not sure when or why that changed. Anyway, I just wanted to know I think you're an amazing girl. I've loved every moment I've spent with you. I hope you meet a guy who treats you as the wonderful girl you are."
I just feel this covers both base 1 and 4, as for 1, it owns the ending, and shows I can walk away, and for 4 it informs her that I was interested in more than just sex.