Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Jakeb203]

Shannon, when it comes to life goals and growth, is it possible that you can get worse before you get better? Or is getting worse a sign that you're not on your path?

I've been getting worse with women ever since starting to try and improve with them and I'm beginning to think I'm on the wrong path. What would you say?

Generally it is a sign that you're going the wrong direction in life.

Not always, but in my experience, usually. Most of the time.

Life's funny like that. You're welcome to have it your way, but your way doesn't change the world you live in. And if you want to go the wrong way, well, have fun. You'll be back when you figure that out. No matter how stubborn you want to be.

But, does that mean I was on the right path all along? I mean seriously: I've gotten worse with women as the years have gone on since discovering these subs. Does that mean I was right before and have somehow triggered myself to go on the wrong path? Does it mean that these subs are the wrong path for me?

I'm very confused.

Sarge I don't have much authority to tell you which direction you should head into, but if you feel like you have gotten worse with women it might be to do with either you aren't clear where you are heading to, or lack of scientific methods to get better.

You see "getting better with women" may be a very general term. You can expect to date multiple women, have many free ONS, or simply getting a girlfriend. There are definitely ways you can reach there, but thinking blindly improve the women area is too general to be actionable. If you want to work on becoming more attractive, I guess SM / WM will be the better option. Last but not least, if you struggle too much with getting women, finding a mentor in this area will help tremendously. Studying success is much easier when you are actively communicating with models, and let him pin-point what you need to work on, and in real person. I'd say I haven't seen too many self-learners who have achieved tremendous success or reached any pro level when they only choose to work alone. Critiquing, tweaking and working on something always requires you to understand what the problem is, often with a bunch of people, so you will keep making progress or eventually solve the problem.

And as secondary thought, I believe running BASE will help you reach a clearer level of thinking that will solve your confusions even better. Before BASE my mind was fairly scattered because I tend to think with right brain too much. A golden gem in BASE is training you to think, analyze and solve questions logically, hence why it is so practical and why you may have a clearer grasp of how to deal with the current struggles.