05-26-2016, 04:26 PM
For whatever it's worth, adrenaline can be fueled not just by fear but also by positive stress or eustress. Think of it like this: if you love roller coasters and you come upon a new 300ft behemoth coaster that goes 90mph your blood starts pumping. Is it necessarily fear? Maybe or maybe not. But the adrenaline response (fight or flight) is also based upon how you perceive the response.
As far as the gay dude thing, I look at it like street salesman (Sarge knows what I'm talking about here). Some days I don't mind if a salesman walks up to me on campus trying to promote some new apartment or some product. Other days I really can't be bothered and would rather them leave me alone. Sometimes as I'm walking I see them [the street salesmen/promoters/whatever] going up to other people pushing a sale. And sometimes I think "man I hope this chick/dude doesn't come up to me cause I'm not in the mood".
Do I fear the salesman? No...I can simply say no and move on. After I give them the "no thank you" I expect them to walk away and go on about their business. Like others I do hope that my polite "no thank you" doesn't result in me getting badgered by the individual who just won't take no for an answer particularly if it is a clear no. No shame in their game because I know that sales people have a job to do and I don't want to knock their hussle.
That's where some of the fellas (me included) may be coming from when they say they don't want attention from gay dudes. It's a slight hassle that in all honesty is rare but isn't something we WANT to deal with IF we don't HAVE to.That said, if it's truly unavoidable, and me getting hit on by the occasional gay dude is something I have to deal with while getting a lot of female attention, eh, I'll deal with it.
As far as the gay dude thing, I look at it like street salesman (Sarge knows what I'm talking about here). Some days I don't mind if a salesman walks up to me on campus trying to promote some new apartment or some product. Other days I really can't be bothered and would rather them leave me alone. Sometimes as I'm walking I see them [the street salesmen/promoters/whatever] going up to other people pushing a sale. And sometimes I think "man I hope this chick/dude doesn't come up to me cause I'm not in the mood".
Do I fear the salesman? No...I can simply say no and move on. After I give them the "no thank you" I expect them to walk away and go on about their business. Like others I do hope that my polite "no thank you" doesn't result in me getting badgered by the individual who just won't take no for an answer particularly if it is a clear no. No shame in their game because I know that sales people have a job to do and I don't want to knock their hussle.
That's where some of the fellas (me included) may be coming from when they say they don't want attention from gay dudes. It's a slight hassle that in all honesty is rare but isn't something we WANT to deal with IF we don't HAVE to.That said, if it's truly unavoidable, and me getting hit on by the occasional gay dude is something I have to deal with while getting a lot of female attention, eh, I'll deal with it.
